Test. Communication skills . (yes “+”, no “-”)
Do you have many friends with whom you constantly communicate?
How long have you been worried about the feeling of resentment caused to you by one of your comrades?
Do you have a desire to establish new acquaintances with different people.
Is it true that you find it more pleasant and easier to spend time with books or some other activity than with people?
Do you easily connect with people who are much older than you?
Is it difficult for you to join new companies for you?
Do you find it easy to connect with people you don't know?
Is it difficult for you to get used to the new team?
Do you try to get to know and talk with strangers when the opportunity arises?
Do people around you annoy you and do you want to be alone?
Do you enjoy being around people all the time?
Do you feel embarrassed, uncomfortable, or embarrassed if you have to take the initiative to get to know a new person?
Do you like to participate in collective games?
Is it true that you honor yourself insecurely among people unfamiliar to you?
Do you think that it is not difficult for you to bring revitalization to a company unfamiliar to you?
Do you strive to limit the circle of your acquaintances to a small number of people?
Do you feel at ease when you are in an unfamiliar company?
Is it true that you honor yourself with enough confidence and calmness when you have to say something to a large group of people?
Is it true that you have many friends?
Are you often the center of attention of your comrades?
Results processing
:
Collate your results with a key (everyone is given a key to process the results) and count the number of matching answers. Calculate the Estimated Coefficient of Communication Skills
K=X / 20, (division) where K is the value of the estimated coefficient;
X is the number of matching answers with the key,
20 is the maximum possible number of matches
Key to the definition of communication skills.
Communication Skills Rating Scale .Interpretation of results
Rating "1".
The subjects who received it are characterized by an extremely low level of manifestation of abilities for communicative activity.
Rating "2".
For subjects who received such an assessment, a lack of desire for communication is characteristic. They feel constrained in an unfamiliar company and a new team. They prefer to spend time alone with themselves, limit their acquaintances with new people. They find it difficult to speak in front of an audience. They are not well oriented in an unfamiliar situation. They do not defend their opinion, they are hard offended.
Grade "3".
The subjects who received such an assessment, having average data, strive for new contacts with people, without limiting the circle of their usual acquaintances. They willingly show leadership behavior, defend their opinion. However, the potential of their abilities is not sustainable. If they want to be successful in communicating with people, they need serious and systematic work on the formation and development of abilities.
Rating "4".
The subjects of this group do not get lost in a new environment for them, quickly find friends, and constantly expand their circle of acquaintances. They are willing to do community service help relatives, friends, show initiative in communication.
Rating "5".
People with a high level of manifestation of communicative abilities quickly orient themselves in difficult situations, they behave at ease in a new team. The subjects of this group are proactive. They prefer independence in choosing and making decisions, defend their opinion and strive for it to be accepted. They easily merge into an unfamiliar company.
Methods for studying competence in communication(according to the book "Psychological Tests" edited byA.A. Karelina, 2001)
1. Evaluation of the level of sociability (test by V.F. Ryakhovsky).
IN ability to determine the level of communicationyou person. Three options fromvetov- yes, sometimes, and no. Answer quickly, unequivocally, write down the answer options (“1 yes”, “2 no”, “3 sometimes”, etc.).
You have an ordinary or business meeting. Does it knock you outwaiting out of a rut?
Do you feel confused and dissatisfied when asked to speakwith a report, message, information at any meeting, withscolding or the like?
Are you postponing a visit to the doctor until the last moment?
You are offered to go on a business trip to a city where you will neverhave been. Do you make every effort to avoid thisbusiness trips?
Do you like to share your experiences with anyone?
Do you get annoyed if a stranger on the street asksto you with a request (show the way, name the time, answer somequestion)?
Do you believe that there is a problem of "fathers and sons" and thatDyam different generations is difficult to understand each other?
Are you embarrassed to remind a friend that he has forgotten youwithdraw the money you borrowed a few months ago?
In a restaurant or in the dining room, you were served obviously poor qualitydish. Will you keep silent, only angrily pushing the plate?
Once alone with a stranger, you will notdrink with him in conversation and you will be burdened if he speaks first. Is it so?
You are horrified by any long line, no matter where it is(in the store, library, cinema box office). Do you prefer rejectionget away from your intention or stand behind and languish inwaiting?
Are you afraid to participate in any review committeenyu conflict situations?
You have your own purely individual evaluation criteriaworks of literature, art, culture and you do not accept any other people's opinions on this matter. This is true?
Having heard somewhere on the sidelines an obviously erroneous point of view on a question well known to you, do you prefer to be silent and not engage in conversation?
Do you get frustrated when someone asks you to help sort outthis or that service issue or educational topic?
Are you more willing to express your point of view (opinion, assessment) inwritten than orally?
Response score:
"yes" - 2 points, "sometimes" - 1 point, "no" - 0 points.
The points received are summed up, and the classifier determinesWhich category does the subject belong to?
test classifier.
30-31 points. You are clearly uncommunicative, and this is your misfortune, since you yourself suffer the most from this. But it is not easy for people close to you. You are difficult to rely on in a matter that requires group effort. Try to be more sociable, control yourself.
25-29 points. You are closed, taciturn, prefer aloneso you don't have many friends. New job and the need for new contacts, if they don’t plunge you into a panic, then they unbalance for a long time. You know this feature of your character and sometimes free of themselves. But do not limit yourself to such dissatisfaction - inyour power to reverse these character traits. Doesn't it happenthat with any strong enthusiasm, you suddenly acquire sexnew communication skills? It just takes a shake.
19-24 points. You are sociable to a certain extent and in unfamiliar feel quite confident in the environment. New challenges don't scare you. And yet, with new people, converge with caution, in disputes and disputes. you are reluctant to participate. There is too much in your statements sometimessarcasm for no reason. These shortcomings are correctable.
14-18 points. You have good communication skills. you are inquisitiveattentive, willing to listen interesting interlocutor enough be patientLivs in communication, defend your point of view without irascibility.Withoutunpleasant experiences go to meet new people. At thattime do not like noisy companies; extravagant antics and manywords make you angry.
9 - 13 points. You are very sociable (sometimes, perhaps even beyondmeasures). Curious, talkative, like to speak out on different questionsdew, which sometimes irritates others. Willingly familiarhang out with new people. Love to be the center of attentionrefuse requests, although you can not always fulfill them. Happens,flare up, but back away quickly. What you lack is perseverance,patience and courage when faced with serious problems.AtIf you wish, however, you can force yourself not to back down.
4-8 points. You must be the shirt guy. Sociability beats outyou with the key. You are always aware of everything. Do you like to take part inall discussions, although serious topics may give you a migraine or even blues. Willingly take the floor on any issue, even if you have a superficial idea about it. Everywhere you feel at ease. You take on any business, although you can not always successfully bring it to end. For this very reason, managers and colleagues treat you with some apprehension and doubt. Consider these facts.
3 points or less. Your communication skills are painfulter. You are talkative, verbose, intervene in matters that do not havehave nothing to do with you. Take on the challenge of judgingcompletely incompetent. Willingly or unwittingly, you often visitcause all sorts of conflicts in your environment. Hot-tempered, offendedChevy, you are often biased. Serious work is not for you. Liu dyam - both at work and at home, and in general everywhere - it is difficult with you. Yes, you need to work on yourself and your character! First of all, educated develop patience and restraint in yourself, respectfully treatpeople, finally, think about your health - this lifestyle is notpasses without a trace.
Test to assess self-control in communication. Test 2
(The test was developed American psychologist M. Snyder)
Read carefully ten sentences describing reactions to certain situations. You must evaluate each of them as correct. or incorrect in relation to itself. If the offer seems to younym or predominantly true, put next to the ordinal butmeasure the letter "B", if incorrect or mostly incorrect -the letter "N".
It seems to me difficult the art of imitating the habits of others.dey.
I could probably play the fool to get attention oramuse those around you.
I could make a good actor.
Other people sometimes think that I am experiencing something deeper.boko than it really is.
In a company, I rarely find myself in the spotlight.
In different situations and in dealing with different people, I often leadyourself in completely different ways.
I can only defend what I sincerely believe.
To succeed in business and in relationships with people, I try to bethe way they expect me to be.
Popular tests for determining the communicative qualities of a person
Recently, many popular tests have come out of print: tests for all occasions, tests that promise to determine your character, temperament, find out your fate in 15-20 minutes and generally determine what you are capable of and “what kind of bird are you?”. Most of these popular tests come from the same almanac or encyclopedia. psychological tests in another. And the compilers of these publications can no longer determine the original authorship of most of the test methods placed in them. Obviously, this comes from the "stagnant" time, when testing was recognized as a bourgeois science, and the distribution of tests was persecuted.
As a conclusion, the following are some popular tests that are directly related to the subject matter of this book.
Your communication style
We rarely get to look at ourselves from the outside, and yet everyone has a favorite manner of communication, what is usually called style. This test can help determine this style. With it, you will find out if you are correct enough in relation to employees, family members, friends and how they communicate with you.
For each of the 20 questions below, there are three possible answers. If none of the options suits you, move on to the next question. After the questionnaire, the Key for evaluating the test result is placed. Do not attach very serious importance to the data received, consider them rather as information for reflection.
1. Do you tend to look for ways to reconcile after another official conflict?
a) always
b) sometimes
c) never
2. How do you behave in a critical situation?
a) boil internally
b) remain calm
c) lose control
3. How do your colleagues think of you?
a) self-confident and envious
b) friendly
c) calm and independent
4. How would you react if you were offered a responsible position?
a) accept with some apprehension
b) agree without hesitation
c) give it up for your own peace of mind
5. How do you behave if one of your colleagues takes without permission
paper from your desk?
a) give him "on the first number"
b) force return
c) ask if he needs anything else
6. What words will you meet your husband (wife) if he (she) returned (returned) from work later than usual?
a) "What's holding you back so much?"
b) "Where do you hang out late?"
c) “I have already begun (began) to worry”
7. How do you behave while driving a car?
a) try to overtake the car that "showed you the tail"
b) you don't care how many cars have overtaken you
c) rush at such a speed that no one will catch up with you
8. What do you think your views on life are?
a) balanced
b) frivolous
c) very hard
9. What will you do if things don't work out?
a) try to put the blame on someone else
b) calm down
c) be more careful
10. How do you react to a feuilleton about cases of promiscuity among today's youth?
a) it’s time for young people to ban such entertainment
b) it is necessary to create an opportunity for them to have an organized and cultural holiday
c) and why are we messing with it?
11. How do you feel if the position you wanted to take went to someone else?
a) and why did I spend my nerves (spent) on this?
b) it is clear that this person is more pleasant for the boss
c) maybe I can do it another time
12. How do you feel when you watch a scary movie?
a) feelings of fear
b) you are bored
c) genuinely enjoy
13. How will you behave if you are late for an important meeting due to a traffic jam?
a) you will be nervous during the meeting
b) try to cause condescension of partners
c) get upset
14. How do you feel about your sports success?
a) try to win
b) appreciate the pleasure of feeling young
c) get very angry if you lose
15. What do you do if you get bad service in a restaurant?
a) endure, avoiding scandal
b) call the head waiter and make a remark to him
c) go with a complaint to the director of the restaurant
16. What would you do if your child was bullied at school?
a) talk to the teacher
b) make a scandal to the offender's parents
c) advise the child to fight back
17. What kind of person are you?
a) normal
b) confident
c) punchy
18. What would you say to a subordinate you ran into at the door?
a) sorry, it's my fault
b) nothing, nothing
c) Can't you be more careful?
19. Your reaction to a newspaper article about hooliganism among young people:
(a) When will concrete action finally be taken?
b) more severe punishments should be introduced!
c) you can’t blame everything on the youth, the educators are also to blame!
20. Which animal do you like the most?
b) domestic cat
c) bear
Key to the test
(scoring points for the answers of the subject)
Calculate the total score for the test.
You scored between 35 and 44 points. You are moderately aggressive, you are successful in life, because you have enough sound ambition. Treat criticism kindly, if it is business-like and without pretensions.
You scored 45 points or more. You are overly aggressive and unbalanced, often overly cruel to other people. You hope to reach the managerial “top”, relying on your own strength. Achieving success in any area, you can sacrifice the interests of others. Be ambivalent about criticism: you accept criticism “from above”, and you perceive criticism “from below” painfully, sometimes carelessly. You can pursue criticism from below.
You scored 34 points or less. You are overly peaceful, which is due to insufficient confidence in your own strengths and capabilities. This, of course, does not mean that you bend under any breeze. Still, more determination won't hurt you! Be tolerant of criticism "from below", but be afraid of criticism "from above".
Your character
Identify your leading finger, eye, and palm first.
1. Leading finger. If, when interlacing the fingers into the lock, the left finger (L) is on top, then this is due to the emotional warehouse of the personality, if the right one (P), then with the analytical one.
2. Leading eye. Stretch your hand forward with your thumb up. Look with both eyes, fix its position. Then close your left eye, open it again and close your right. Your finger will "shift" to the side at the moment when you look at it with your dominant eye. The leading right eye corresponds to a firm, persistent, sometimes aggressive character, the left eye is softer, more compliant.
3. Napoleon's pose. If, when interlacing the arms on the chest, the left hand is on top (in most cases), then this indicates the ability to coquetry, if the right one indicates innocence. The hand that is on top will be the leading one.
4. Applause. If the blows are made with the right hand, then it is the leading one, if the left - vice versa. When making blows with the right one, one can speak of a more decisive character, with the left - about indecision, the desire for excessive justification of one's actions, transferring goals to the means of achieving them. Sometimes they applaud with both hands, but even then it is possible to determine which applause is more convenient for a given person - right or left.
Changing the habitual performance of Napoleon's pose and applause is extremely rare. The transition from the “left” test to the “right” corresponds to a serious mood, from the “right” to the “left” - more emotional.
Interpretation of test result
Designate the corresponding letters (letter index) the result of each of the four selected aspects. For example, you got LPLL. See what that means with the interpreter below.
1. PPPP - orientation to generally accepted norms, a conservative type of character, which ensures the most stable type of behavior.
2. PPPL - insecure, conservative, with a weak type of temperament. A common feature is indecision.
3. PPLP - such a person has the ability to coquetry, determination, sense of humor, activity, energy, temperament, artistry. When communicating with this type, humor and determination are necessary, since he does not perceive weaker types.
4. PLPP - a business type of character that combines analytical warehouse mind and gentleness (the main feature most often found in women). Slow addiction, caution. Such people do not go to the conflict in the forehead. Calculation, tolerance, slowness in the development of relations, some coldness prevail.
5. PPLL is a rare and independent type of character. Close to the third type, but softer, more indecisive, less energetic. Some contradictions between indecision and firmness of character. High degree contact, but slow addiction.
6. PLPL is the weakest type of character. Very sharp. Defenselessness and weakness are associated with the ability to go into conflict and at the same time be subject to various influences. Extremely rare in men.
7. PLLP - propensity for new experiences and the ability not to create conflicts. Some inconstancy, the ability to flirt on an analytical background with a special softness. Such types of character are characterized by emotionality, slowness, languor. Simplicity and rare courage in communication, the ability to switch to a new type of behavior.
8. PLLL is an unstable and independent character, the main feature is analyticity in combination with other "left" tests.
9. LPPP is one of the most common types, with very good adaptation to various conditions. The main feature is emotionality combined with insufficient perseverance, which manifests itself mainly in the main life issues (marriage, education). High susceptibility to foreign influence. Easily contacts with almost all other types of character. In men, emotionality is lowered, elements of phlegm are observed.
10. LPPL - even less perseverance, gentleness, compliance with cautious influence, naivety. Requires a particularly careful attitude towards himself - the type of "little queen".
11. LPLP - the strongest type of character, difficult to convince, this requires a strong, diverse influence. Able to be persistent, but sometimes she turns to obsessing over secondary goals. Strong personality, energy, ability to overcome difficulties. Some conservatism due to insufficient attention to someone else's point of view. Such people do not like infantilism.
12. LPLL - a strong, but unobtrusive character, almost not amenable to persuasion. The main feature is internal aggressiveness, but slow addiction and mutual understanding.
13. LLPP - friendliness and simplicity, some dispersion of interests.
14. LLPL - the main feature - innocence, gullibility, gentleness. A very rare type. It almost never occurs in men.
15. LLLP - emotionality combined with determination (main feature), energy. Some dispersion leads to the fact that such characters may have emotional, quickly made, ill-conceived decisions. Therefore, in dealing with them, additional "brake mechanisms" are important.
16. LLLL - owners of a full set of "left" tests - people who are characterized by the ability to take a fresh look at things (anti-conservatism), the greatest emotionality, individuality, selfishness, stubbornness, security, sometimes turning into isolation. The ability to smile dazzlingly is associated with "left" tests and, above all, with the left dominant hand.
Your communication skills
For each of the 16 questions below, choose one of the alternative answers: "Yes", "Sometimes", "No".
1. You have a business meeting. Are you unsettled by her anticipation?
2. Do you put off going to the doctor until it becomes unbearable?
3. Do you feel embarrassed and dissatisfied with the assignment to make a report, report, information at any conference, meeting or similar event?
4. You are offered to go on a business trip to a city or village where you have never been. Will you make every effort to avoid this business trip?
5. Do you like to share your experiences with anyone?
6. Do you get annoyed when a stranger on the street asks you to show him the way, tell him the time, answer any other question?
7. Do you believe that there is a problem of "fathers and sons" and that it is difficult for people of different generations to understand each other?
8. Do you hesitate to remind a friend that he forgot to give you 10 thousand rubles, which he borrowed a few months ago?
9. In a restaurant or canteen, you were served an obviously poor-quality dish. Will you keep silent, only angrily pushing the plate?
10. Once alone with a stranger, you will not enter into a conversation with him and will be burdened if he speaks first. Is it so?
11. Any long queue terrifies you, no matter where it is: in a store, cinema box office, etc. Would you rather give up your intention than stand in the tail and languish in anticipation?
12. Are you afraid to participate in any conflict resolution committee?
13. Do you have purely individual criteria for evaluating works of literature, art, culture, and do you not accept any other people's opinions?
14. Having heard somewhere in the lobby an obviously erroneous point of view on a matter well known to you, would you prefer to remain silent and not enter into an argument?
15. Do you get annoyed by someone's request to look into this or that service issue or study topic?
16. Are you more willing to express your point of view (opinion) in writing than orally?
Key for scoring
For each answer "Yes" - 2 points; for each answer "Sometimes" - 1 point; for each answer "No" - 0 points.
Interpreting test scores If you score 30-32
You are clearly uncommunicative, and this is your misfortune, since you yourself suffer the most from this. But it is not easy for people close to you. You are difficult to rely on in a matter that requires group effort. Try to become more sociable, control yourself.
If you scored 25-29 points
You are closed, taciturn, prefer loneliness, so you probably have few friends. A new job and the need for new contacts, if it does not plunge you into a panic, then it unbalances you for a long time. You know this feature of your character and are dissatisfied with yourself. But do not limit yourself to dissatisfaction. It is in your power to reverse these features of your character. Doesn't it happen that with some strong enthusiasm you suddenly acquire complete sociability? It just takes a shake.
If you scored 19-24 points
You are sociable to a certain extent and feel quite confident in unfamiliar surroundings. New challenges don't scare you. And yet, with new people, you converge with caution, you are reluctant to enter into disputes and discussions. There is a lot of sarcasm in your statements sometimes without any reason. These shortcomings are correctable.
If you scored 18-14 points
You have good communication skills. you are inquisitive, willingly listen to an interesting interlocutor, are quite tolerant in communicating with others, defend your point of view without irascibility. Feel free to meet new people.
At the same time, do not like noisy companies, extravagant antics and verbosity annoy you. If you scored 9-13 points
You are very sociable, sometimes even beyond measure. Curious, talkative, like to speak out on various issues, which sometimes irritates others, willingly meet new people. Love to be the center of attention, do not refuse requests to anyone, although you cannot always fulfill them. It happens, flare up, but quickly move away. What you lack is perseverance, patience and courage when faced with serious problems. If you wish, however, you can force yourself not to back down.
If you scored 4-8 points
You must be the shirt guy. Sociability beats out of you. You are always aware of everything. Love to take part in discussions, although serious topics can give you a migraine or even a blues. Willingly take the floor on any issue, even if you have a superficial idea about it. You take on any business, although you can not always successfully bring the matter to the end. For this very reason, managers and colleagues treat you with some apprehension and doubt. Consider this fact.
If you scored 0-3 points
Your communication skills are painful. You are talkative, verbose, interfering in matters that have nothing to do with you. You undertake to judge problems in which you are completely incompetent. Willingly or unwittingly, you are the cause of various conflicts in your environment. Quick-tempered, touchy, often biased. Serious work is not for you. Both at work and at home, people have a hard time with you. You should work on yourself and your character. First of all, cultivate tolerance and restraint in yourself, a respectful attitude towards people, and finally, think about your health - this lifestyle does not go unnoticed.
Who you are? Captain? Steering? Passenger?
The character of a person, as you know, is manifested in actions, in relation to people, in the choice that each of us makes in a given situation. If you want to know yourself better, answer each of the 15 suggested questions: "Yes", "No", "Don't know". This, of course, is not an exam, but it is still important that you, when answering, do not dissemble in front of yourself.
1. I always feel responsible for everything that happens in my life.
2. There would not be so many problems in my life if some people changed their attitude towards me.
3. I prefer to act rather than reflect on the reasons for my failures.
4. Sometimes I feel like I was born under a "lucky star".
5. I believe that alcoholics themselves are to blame for their illness.
6. Sometimes I think that for many things in my life those people are responsible, under whose influence I became the way I am.
7. If I catch a cold, I prefer to treat myself rather than resort to the help of a doctor.
8. I believe that other people are most often to blame for the absurdity and aggressiveness that are so annoying in a woman.
9. I believe that any problem can be solved, and I don’t really understand those who always have some kind of life difficulties.
10. I love helping people because I feel grateful for what others have done for me.
11. If there is a conflict, then, thinking about who is to blame, I usually start with myself.
12. If a black cat crosses my path, I cross to the other side of the street.
13. I believe that every person, regardless of circumstances, should be strong and independent.
14. I know my shortcomings, but I want others to treat them condescendingly.
15. Usually I put up with a situation that I am not able to influence.
Interpretation of test results
For each “Yes” answer to questions 1, 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13 and “No” to questions 2, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12, 14, 15, give yourself 10 points. 5 points for "I don't know" answers. Calculate the total points.
100–150 points. You captain own life, you feel responsible for everything that happens to you, you take on a lot, you overcome difficulties without exaggerating them, without raising them to the rank of life problems. You see a problem in front of you and think about how it can be solved. What at the same time you feel what is happening in your soul is a mystery to those around you.
50–99 points. You are willing to be helmsman, but you can, if necessary, transfer the helm to the right hands. When assessing the causes of your own difficulties, you are quite realistic. Flexibility, prudence and sensitivity are always your allies. There are situations that do not concern you in any way, you do not bear any responsibility for them, and yet, if necessary, you still take responsibility. And you usually know when to do it. You know how to live in good harmony with other people, without violating the inner harmony with yourself.
Up to 49 points. Do you often visit passenger in your life, easily obey external forces, saying: this is how circumstances, fate, etc. developed. You blame anyone for your difficulties, but not yourself. True independence seems unattainable and impossible to you. Nevertheless, you know how to peacefully coexist with others, without attaching importance to what kind of people they are and how they treat you.
How confident are you
Check the statements you agree with.
1. Most people seem to be more aggressive and confident than me.
2. I am hesitant to date and accept dates because of my shyness.
3. When the food served in a restaurant does not satisfy me, I complain to the administration.
4. I avoid hurting other people's feelings, even if I've been insulted.
5. If the seller took great effort to show me a product that does not quite suit me, it is difficult for me to say “No” to him.
6. When I am asked to do something, I demand that the necessity of it be explained to me.
7. There are times when I am looking for a strong argument.
8. I try to get ahead, like most people.
9. To be honest, people often take advantage of me.
10. I enjoy making conversation with new acquaintances and strangers.
11. I often do not know what to say to people of the opposite sex who are attractive to me.
12. I would prefer to apply in writing to be hired or enrolled in educational institution than go through an interview.
13. I feel hesitant when it comes to making a phone call to an institution or organization.
14. I am embarrassed to return a purchase.
15. If a close and respected relative annoys me, I would rather hide my feelings than show irritation.
16. I avoid asking questions for fear of looking stupid.
17. In a quarrel, I am sometimes afraid that I will worry, and I will start to shake.
18. If a well-known and respected lecturer expresses a point of view that I consider to be incorrect, I will force the audience to listen to my point of view as well.
19. I avoid arguing with clerks and salespeople about price.
20. When I do something important and worthwhile, I try to let others know about it.
21. I am frank and sincere in my feelings.
22. If someone spreads gossip about me, I tend to find him as soon as possible to talk about it.
23. I often find it difficult to say "No".
24. I tend to hold back the manifestation of my emotions, rather than arrange "scene".
25. I complain to responsible persons about poor service in a restaurant, hotel, and other places.
26. When someone compliments me, I sometimes don't know what to say in return.
27. If people talk a lot in the theater or at a lecture next to me, I ask them to speak more quietly or talk somewhere else.
28. Anyone who tries to climb in line ahead of me can be sure that he will receive a rebuff from me.
29. I speak my mind quickly.
30. There are times when I just can't say anything.
Interpretation of test results
Give one point for statements 3, 6, 7, 8, 10, 18, 20, 21, 22, 25, 27, 28, 29 that you agree with.
Also give one point each for statements 1, 2, 4, 5, 9, 11, 12, 13, 14.15, 16.17, 19, 23, 24, 26.30 that you did not mark (i.e. . with which you disagree).
Calculate your total points.
Less than 10 points. You are a shy person and lack self-confidence. It is difficult for you to express your feelings and desires, and therefore others can impose their society on you, push you aside when receiving, for example, any benefits, sometimes without even noticing it, infringe your rights in some way. At the same time, you tend to have outbursts of aggressive behavior towards people who are dependent on you.
10–20 points. You have an average level of confidence. You can fight back against those who try to infringe on your interests or do not honor obligations, but for this you still need to feel a little turned on. Otherwise, you prefer to endure and silently get angry, not daring to enter into a conflict. You have the ability to quickly learn to behave "in a manner confident person”, participating in socio-psychological trainings.
Over 20 points. You high level confidence. You are characterized by calmness, the ability to control yourself in any situation, the ability to express your feelings and desires without offending others and without entering into conflicts with them. You will not tolerate the infringement of your rights, restore them, if necessary, not with explosions of uncontrolled aggression, not with complaints and requests, but, as a rule, with decisive and at the same time correct, socially acceptable actions.
What kind of leader are you
Answer "Yes" or "No" to the questions below.
1. Are you willing to take on management tasks that do not have standard solutions?
2. Was it difficult for you to give up the management techniques that you used when working in a lower position?
3. How long did you favor the previously headed unit by moving up?
4. Do you strive to develop a universal management style suitable for most situations?
5. Are you able to give a holistic assessment of your subordinates (leaders of a lower rank), qualifying them as strong, average or weak leaders?
6. Do you find it easy to go beyond personal likes or dislikes in appointments?
7. Do you think that there is no universal management style and you need to be able to combine different styles depending on the specifics of management situations?
8. Do you find it easier to avoid conflict with your superiors than with your subordinates?
9. Do you want to break the stereotypes of management that have developed in the unit you lead?
10. How often do your first intuitions about a person's qualities as a leader turn out to be correct?
11. Do you often have to explain failures in objective management? adverse factors(lack of housing, interruptions in logistics, etc.)?
12. Do you often feel like effective work you don't have enough time?
13. Do you think that if you had the opportunity to visit the sites more often, then the effectiveness of your management would increase significantly?
14. Do you give strong leaders subordinate to you much more authority and independence in resolving issues than weak ones, although both of them have the same official status?
Interpretation of test results
The number of points scored is determined by the table:
0–5 points. By nature, you are more of a specialist than a leader. If you have the opportunity to move, for example, to the position of chief specialist, chief engineer, etc. - do not hesitate!
6-10 points. It cannot be said that you are a strong leader, but if things are going well in the team you lead, then it is better not to undertake radical reorganizations. No need to agree to move to another team. You should listen more to the opinions of superiors and the team, pay more attention to personnel and future issues, make more use of collective forms of decision-making, strive to create and strengthen traditions in the team.
11–15 points. You belong to the type of "manager-organizer", you know how to concentrate your efforts on more important problems. These include the problems of effective selection and placement of personnel, the problem of developing and coordinating an actually implemented optimal plan, the problem of material and technical supply. Your strength lies in the fact that you never go along with current affairs, separate the main from the secondary, know how to achieve a solution to fundamental problems at all costs, without stopping before conflicts and penalties. Things in the unit you lead, as a rule, are going well. One piece of advice can be given to you: do not run current affairs. When entrusting them to their deputies, from time to time control the execution.
16–20 points. You can pull a lagging unit out of a breakthrough, but it's hard for you to work with turnover. You are looking for critical situations, striving for restructuring and transformation, focused on a business career. Possessing the necessary managerial abilities, you do not always adapt successfully, as you are hindered by excessive categoricalness in assessments and judgments, as well as, possibly, excessive harshness in relations with higher leaders.
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"Can I communicate?"
Diagnostic techniques aimed at identifying individual communication skills.
1. Assessment of the level of sociability (test).
2. Test for assessing communication skills.
3. Test for assessing self-control in communication (M. Snyder).
Test W.F. Ryakhovsky.
1. You have an ordinary or business meeting. Are you unsettled by her anticipation?
2. Are you postponing a visit to the doctor until the last moment?
3. Do you feel embarrassed and dissatisfied with an assignment to make a report, message, information at any conference, meeting or similar event?
4. You are offered to go on a business trip to a city where you have never been. Will you make every effort to avoid this business trip?
5. Do you like to share your experiences with anyone?
6. Do you get annoyed if a stranger on the street turns to you with a request (show the way, tell the time, answer some question)?
7. Do you believe that there is a problem of "fathers and sons" and that it is difficult for people of different generations to understand each other?
8. Are you embarrassed to remind a friend that he forgot to return 10 rubles to you, which he borrowed a few months ago?
9. In a restaurant or in the dining room, you were served an obviously poor-quality dish. Will you keep silent, only angrily pushing the plate away?
10. Once alone with a stranger, you will not enter into a conversation with him and will be burdened if he speaks first. Is it so?
11. You are horrified by any long line, no matter where it is (in a store, library, cinema box office). Would you rather give up your intention...?
12. Are you afraid to participate in any conflict resolution committee?
13. You have your own purely individual criteria for evaluating works of literature, art, culture, and you do not accept any other people's opinions on this matter. This is true?
14. Having heard somewhere in the lobby an obviously erroneous point of view on a matter well known to you, would you prefer to remain silent and not enter into an argument?
15. Do you get annoyed when someone asks you to help you sort out a particular service issue or study topic?
16. Are you more willing to express your point of view (opinion, assessment) in writing than orally?
30-32 points. You are clearly uncommunicative, and this is your misfortune, since you yourself suffer the most from this. But it's not easy for the people close to you either. You are difficult to rely on in a matter that requires group effort. Try to become more sociable, control yourself.
25-29 points. You are closed, taciturn, prefer loneliness, and therefore you probably have few friends. A new job and the need for new contacts, if it does not plunge you into a panic, then it unbalances you for a long time. You know this feature of your character and are dissatisfied with yourself. But do not limit yourself to discontent only - it is in your power to reverse these character traits. Doesn't it happen that with any strong enthusiasm you suddenly acquire complete sociability? It just takes a shake.
19-24 points. You are sociable to a certain extent and feel quite confident in unfamiliar surroundings. New challenges don't scare you. And yet with new people converge with caution, you are reluctant to participate in disputes and disputes. There is sometimes too much sarcasm in your statements for no reason at all. These shortcomings are correctable.
14-18 points. You have good communication skills. You are inquisitive, willingly listen to an interesting interlocutor, patient enough in dealing with others, defend your point of view without irascibility. Feel free to meet new people. At the same time, you do not like noisy companies; extravagant antics and verbosity annoy you.
9-13 points. You are very sociable (sometimes, perhaps even beyond measure). Curious, talkative, like to speak out on various issues, which sometimes irritates others. Willingly meet new people. Love to be the center of attention, do not refuse requests to anyone, although you cannot always fulfill them. It happens, flare up, but quickly move away. What you lack is perseverance, patience and courage when faced with serious problems. If you wish, however, you can force yourself not to back down.
4-8 points. You must be the shirt guy. Sociability beats out of you. You are always aware of everything. Like to take part in all discussions, although serious topics can give you migraines and even blues. Willingly take the floor on any issue, even if you have a superficial idea about it. Everywhere you feel at ease. You take on any business, although you can’t always successfully bring it to the end. For this very reason, managers and colleagues treat you with some apprehension. Think about it!
3 points or less. Your communication skills are painful. You are talkative, verbose, interfering in matters that have nothing to do with you. You undertake to judge problems in which you are completely incompetent. Willingly or unwittingly, you are often the cause of all sorts of conflicts in your environment. Quick-tempered, touchy, often biased. Serious work is not for you. People - and at work, and at home, and generally everywhere - it's hard with you. Yes, you need to work on yourself and your character! First of all, cultivate patience and restraint in yourself, look more respectfully towards people; Finally, think about your health - this lifestyle does not go unnoticed.
Test for assessing self-control in communication
(The test was developed by the American psychologist M. Snyder)
Read carefully ten sentences describing reactions to certain situations. You must evaluate each of them as true or false in relation to yourself. If the sentence seems to you true or mostly true, put the letter "B" next to the serial number, if it's incorrect or mostly incorrect - the letter "H".
1. The art of imitating the habits of other people seems difficult to me.
2. I could probably play the fool to get attention or to amuse others.
3. I could make a good actor.
4. Other people sometimes think that I am experiencing something more deeply than it really is.
5. In a company, I rarely find myself in the spotlight.
6. In different situations and in communication with different people I often behave in completely different ways.
7. I can only stand for what I sincerely believe.
8. In order to succeed in business and in relationships with people, I try to be the way they expect me to be.
9. I can be friendly with people I can't stand.
10. I am not always what I seem.
People with high communicative control, according to Snyder, constantly monitor themselves, know well where and how to behave, control the expression of their emotions. At the same time, spontaneity of self-expression is difficult for them, they do not like unpredictable situations. Their position: "I am who I am at the moment." People with low communicative control are more direct and open, they have a more stable "I", little subject to change in various situations.
Counting results.
One point is awarded for the answer "H" to the 1st, 5th and 7th questions and for the answer "B" to all the others. Calculate your points. If you sincerely answered the questions, then, apparently, the following can be said about you:
0- 3 points - you have low communication control. Your behavior is stable, and you do not consider it necessary to change depending on situations. You are capable of sincere self-disclosure in communication. Some consider you "uncomfortable" in communication because of your directness.
4-6 points - you have an average communicative control, you are sincere, but unrestrained in your emotional manifestations, you are considered in your behavior with other people.
7-10 points- you have high communication control. You easily enter into any role, react flexibly to changing situations, feel the situation well and are even able to anticipate the impression that you make on others.
Communication skills assessment test
OptionI.
Instruction: Mark the situations that cause you dissatisfaction, annoyance, irritation when talking with any person - whether it be your friend, colleague, immediate supervisor, manager, or just a random interlocutor.
Situation options.
1. The interlocutor does not give me a chance to speak, I have something to say, but there is no way to insert a word.
2. The interlocutor constantly interrupts me during the conversation.
3. The interlocutor never looks in the face during the conversation, and I'm not sure if he listens to me.
4. Talking with such a partner often causes a feeling of waste of time.
5. The interlocutor is constantly fussing, pencil and paper occupy him more than my words.
6. The interlocutor never smiles. I have a feeling of dissatisfaction and anxiety.
7. The interlocutor constantly distracts me with questions and comments.
8. Whatever I say, the interlocutor always cools my ardor.
9. The interlocutor always tries to refute me.
10. The interlocutor distorts the meaning of my words and puts into them a different content.
11. When I ask a question, the interlocutor makes me defensive.
12. Sometimes the interlocutor asks me again, pretending not to have heard.
13. The interlocutor, without listening to the end, interrupts me only to agree.
14. During a conversation, the interlocutor is concentrated on outsiders: he plays with a cigarette, wipes glass, etc., and I am firmly convinced that he is inattentive at the same time.
15. The interlocutor draws conclusions for me.
16. The interlocutor is always trying to insert a word into my story.
17. The interlocutor always looks at me very carefully, as they say, without blinking.
18. The interlocutor looks at me, as if evaluating. This worries me.
19. When I offer something new, the interlocutor says that he thinks the same way.
20. The interlocutor overacts, showing that he is interested in the conversation, nods his head too often, gasps and agrees.
21. When I talk about something serious, the interlocutor inserts funny stories, jokes, anecdotes.
22. The interlocutor often looks at his watch during a conversation.
23. When I enter the office, he drops everything and turns all his attention to me.
24. The interlocutor behaves as if I prevent him from doing something important.
25. The interlocutor requires everyone to agree with him. Any of his statements ends with the question: “Do you think so too?” or “Do you disagree with this?”
Calculate the percentage of situations that cause you frustration and annoyance.
70% - 100% - you are a bad conversationalist. You need to work on yourself and learn to listen.
40%-70% - you have some shortcomings. You are critical of statements. You still lack some of the virtues of a good interlocutor, avoid hasty conclusions, do not focus on the manner of speaking, do not pretend, do not look for the hidden meaning of what was said, do not monopolize the conversation.
10%-40% - you are a good conversationalist, but sometimes you refuse your partner full attention. Repeat politely his statements, give him time to reveal his thought completely, adapt your pace of thinking to his speech and you can be sure that communication with you will be even more pleasant.
0 %- 10% - you are a great conversationalist. You know how to listen. Your communication style can be an example for others.
OptionII.
Instruction:“10 questions should be answered, which are evaluated”:
"almost always" - 2 points;
"in most cases" - 4 points;
"sometimes" - 6 points;
"rarely" - 8 points;
"almost never" - 10 points.
A list of questions.
1. Do you try to "curl" the conversation in cases where the topic (or interlocutor) is not interesting to you?
2. Do your partner's manners annoy you?
3. Can another person's bad expression provoke you to be harsh or rude?
4. Do you avoid engaging in conversation with a person you don't know or don't know well.
5. Do you have a habit of interrupting the speaker?
6. Do you pretend to listen carefully, but you yourself are thinking about something completely different?
8. Do you change the subject of a conversation if it touches on a topic that is unpleasant for you?
9. Do you correct a person if there are incorrectly pronounced words, names, vulgarisms in his speech?
10. Do you sometimes have a condescending-mentoring tone with a touch of disdain and irony towards the interlocutor?
Processing and interpretation of results.
The more points you have, the more developed your listening skills are.
Usually GPA listeners is 55 points. If more than 62 points are scored, then the listener is “above average”.
Non-verbal means of communication
Task 1. "Phonation".
Students are invited to pronounce the same phrase (for example: "Today I want to tell you ..." or you can take any line from the children's poem "The hostess threw the bunny", "Our Masha cries loudly") in different ways:
With pauses after each word;
Saying after each word: mm, uh;
Saying after each word: here, this, well;
Very fast;
So slow;
Very loud;
Very quiet;
Quiet but fast;
Loud but slow;
Repeating each word twice, etc.
At the same time, the internal state is clarified in which the phrase can be pronounced exactly in the meaning that it acquires in this or that case.
Task 2. "Intonation".
Students are asked to say the words "yes" or "no" with different intonations. Everyone has to come up with certain "supposed circumstances", a pedagogical situation in which given word in relation to the child could sound exactly like that.
Intonation options: confident, cheerful, encouraging, aggressive, detached, trusting a secret, condescending, admiring, etc.
The student must choose for himself 3-4 emotional states that are different from each other, within 5 minutes come up with a situation of justification and demonstrate the result. The situation is not played, but only told to the others.
Task options.
I. Students can be offered a longer phrase, which also needs to be pronounced in a different emotional state, with a different purpose. For example: a line from the poem “Once in a cold winter time ...” or any tongue twister to pronounce as moralizing, praise, admiration, reproach, etc.
II. Students are invited to pronounce interjections, to carry out onomatopoeia with various overtones (ah, oh, mm, uh, etc.; tasty, tired, thoughtful, sad, a thought is about to come, disappointed, joyful).
Task 3. "Logical stress"(By).
Students are invited to pronounce a tongue twister, a proverb, etc., each time placing a logical emphasis on the next word: "Sasha walked along the highway ..."
You can also, working in a circle, ask a neighbor a question, logically highlighting words in turn. The one to whom the question is asked must answer in accordance with the logic of the question posed.
For example:
- walked forty mice? .. (Question)
- walked forty mice. (Answer)
walked fourty mice? (Question)
walked fourty mice. (Answer)
The task can be complicated by the fact that instead of the text it is proposed to use the vowel scale: i-e-a-o-u-s. For example:
I-e-a-o-o-o-s? (Question)
I-e-a-o-o-o-s. (Answer)
I-e-a-o-o-o-s? (Question)
I-e-a-o-o-o-s. (Answer)
These exercises show that the same phrase has a completely different meaning in different communicative situations, and therefore is perceived and evaluated differently by partners.
Facial expressions and pantomime in communication.
Task 1. "Greeting"(By).
Students should greet each other or the whole audience at once using non-verbal means. The task is performed in turn, it is desirable not to repeat.
Task 2. "Mood"(By).
Students should show what mood they are now (without words).
Task 3. "Mimicry".
Mimic - it is an expression of one's thoughts, moods by the movement of the muscles of the face.
A person almost never sees himself from the outside, so it is extremely difficult to imagine yourself in a state of anger, joy, sadness. As a rule, when approaching a mirror, we adopt the facial expression that we like best. Therefore, often, when they see themselves from the side, for example, on a videotape, people exclaim: “Is it really me?”
Students work individually (with mirrors). It is necessary to depict various emotional states, while looking at yourself in the mirror (fear, excitement, timidity, surprise, indignation, discontent, etc., etc.).
A generally accepted sign of disposition towards the interlocutor is a smile, but a smile can be different.
Smile in the mirror: slyly, sincerely, frightened, ingratiatingly, dismissively, evil, etc., etc.
Task 4. "Mirror"( By).
Students work in pairs. One acts as a mirror to the other. All couples work at the same time, without drawing attention to each other.
One depicts various facial reactions, the other tries to repeat them as accurately as possible. Then the students switch roles.
Establishing contact in communication.
Task 1. "Meeting".
Students are divided into pairs. Each pair gets a task card. During the preparation, only the conditions under which the dialogue is carried out are stipulated, the roles are distributed.
Task options.
1. Meeting with a person with whom you once communicated, but a lot of time has passed and nothing connects.
2. Meeting with a person on whom a lot depends.
3. Meeting the person you see every day.
4. Meeting with a person whose conversation does not make you very happy, I would like to avoid it, but you must follow the rules of decency.
5. An unexpected meeting with an old friend.
6. Meeting the boss on the street.
7. A meeting between a teacher and a parent who has not come to school for a long time on a call.
8. Meeting a student in the street in the summer, etc.
When completing the task, students should use the knowledge that they received in the lesson. The situation ends when the students say goodbye to each other.
It is necessary to draw students' attention to how the same techniques are filled with different content depending on the specific situation (for example, the greeting "hello" or "hello").
Task 2. "Let's get to know each other."
Students are invited to choose a situation for themselves in which they should get to know the children, briefly talk about the purpose of their future communication and say goodbye, expressing the pleasure of the upcoming communication (for example: with a new class, with a detachment in a country camp, with children with whom they will go together for an excursion to another city, etc.).
Students are given 5-10 minutes to prepare; Each performance should take 1-2 minutes. Students act as a children's audience, who can join the conversation on behalf of the students, ask questions, clarify, etc.
After each performance, a collective analysis is carried out. The skills of using the acquired knowledge, the ability to respond to unexpected situations, while maintaining a positive attitude towards communication are assessed.
This exercise forms the skills of establishing contact with the audience and creating a positive attitude towards communication.
Task 3. "I want to work for you."
The students are divided into pairs. One is assigned the role of a school principal, the other is the role of a person who wants to get a job at this school. The content of the dialogue is not specified in advance. The task of the newcomer is, when applying for a job, to win over the director as much as possible and get a job. A student acting as a director can choose the style of communication and tactics of behavior.
There is a discussion after each show. First, performers speak, analyzing their own behavior and the behavior of their partner. Then the analysis is carried out by the observers: what made it possible to achieve the set goal or, on the contrary, what techniques were used, by what non-verbal signs the emotional state of the performers was guessed, etc.
This task forms communication skills in official situations, in situations of different targets of partners.
positions in communication.
Task 1. "Compliment".
Students form a double circle: inner and outer. The inner circle faces the outer, forming pairs. Everyone in a couple should say a compliment to each other. You need to be as sincere as possible, look for something in a person that actually deserves praise, and you also need to remember to thank your partner for the nice words. Then the circles are shuffled so that the partners change. Work continues until everyone in the outer circle has exchanged a compliment with everyone in the inner circle.
The exercise is aimed at developing the ability to notice the positive in others and sincerely talk about it.
Exercise 1.
In communication, people can take different positions in relation to each other. The position manifests the style, manner of human communication. different situations allow you to take different positions. In psychology, it is customary to single out the following positions.
Position "Parent"- the main style of behavior: self-confident, aggressive, teaches, directs, evaluates, has no doubts, is responsible for everything, demands from everyone.
Position "Adult" - the main style of behavior: correct, restrained, logically analyzes, free from prejudices, does not give in to moods, argues, analyzes.
Position "Child" ("Child")- the main style of behavior: insecure, submissive, emotional, a person of mood, illogical, impulsive.
You are invited to think and express your opinion on following questions.
1. What position, in your opinion, is the most acceptable for a teacher? Justify.
2. Have you observed each of these positions in teachers? Give examples.
3. Analyze the various reactions of the teacher to the student's act: the student is once again not ready for the lesson.
A. “I’m tired of everything, deal with your grades yourself.”
b. “Let’s think together what is happening to you and try to find a way out of the situation.”
V. "Tomorrow with the parents - to the director."
What position does the teacher take in each situation? Why did you decide so?
Answer the questions:
1. After analyzing your behavior, can you determine which of the positions is most often manifested in your behavior? Give examples.
2. Think and give examples of situations from your own experience when you have held different positions.
3. In what situations, in dealing with what people do you tend to take one position or another?
4. Recall situations when your parents or other adults took the position of "Child" in relation to you.
Each position we are considering in communication corresponds to a certain tactic of pedagogical behavior, a tactic of adapting to the situation.
"Extension on top" - The teacher demonstrates independence, takes full responsibility.
"Addition near"- the teacher takes into account the opinion of the students, seeks to understand each situation, understand the interests of the children, provides freedom of choice and independence.
"Addendum from below" - dependence, subordination of the situation, self-doubt are found in the behavior of the teacher.
During the discussion, it is necessary to understand that each person, having a dominant line of behavior, has his own style of communication, it is common to take different positions in different situations.
The position predetermines the choice of tactics of behavior, i.e., the adaptation of a person to a particular situation, “attaching” to a particular person (or audience).
Task 3. "Chameleon".
Students are invited to analyze how in the story "Chameleon" the tactics of the behavior of the police officer Ochumelov changed depending on the situation.
1. What positions, in your opinion, does the hero of the story take?
2. Analyze how it changes appearance, manner of speaking, words used by Ochumelov, depending on the change of position.
Task 4. "Appearance".
Write down the external signs characteristic of a particular position in communication. 10-15 minutes are allotted for work.
Analysis of behavioral responses
External signs | "Parent" | "Adult" | "Child" |
Facial expression | |||
Characteristic words and expressions | |||
intonation |
Then each group reads out their options, during the joint discussion, the characteristics can be clarified and supplemented.
Task 5. "Discussion".
Students are invited to think and speak on the following questions: what tactics will the teacher choose, in your opinion, if he is afraid of children, if he cannot establish contact with them? List the positive and negative consequences of the teacher's pedagogical influence on children, who occupies each of the positions we have listed.
This task actualizes the idea of students about each of these positions, allows you to identify positive and negative aspects.
Task 6. "In different positions."
Students, working together, are invited to discuss the problem: "The influence of the media on the development of children." Everyone should express their point of view, but at the same time consciously occupying one of the three positions in communication. The teacher can start the discussion by expressing his vision of the problem. If no one supports the conversation, he turns to one of the students with a request to express his opinion. In this case, the student must take a position that is different from the one demonstrated by the teacher. Gradually, more and more new participants should be included in the conversation, each time taking a position that differs from the previous one. It is desirable that in the course of the task, everyone tried himself in different positions, rebuilt from one to another. If, as new participants are included in the discussion, noise, aggression, conflict situations, the teacher must stop the conversation for a few seconds, and then resume it again.
After the end of the discussion, everyone analyzes their behavior, speaking out about which position it was easiest for him to argue, what position he took when his attention switched from the condition of the assignment to the topic under discussion, with opponents holding which position it was easier to debate and etc.
This task is aimed at updating one's own position in communication, at developing the skills to build one's own tactics of behavior, taking into account the situation and the behavior of partners.
You are a very communicative person. k, only beyond measure, because you get into conversations that do not concern you, you don’t know how to listen to your interlocutor at all, and you don’t really worry about what you say yourself. And all because you are trying to talk about topics that are completely unfamiliar, even approximately, you give out advice when they are not asked for it, and in general, you are intrusive, which is why others avoid meeting you. Pull yourself together and learn to endure, to suspend your impulses to talk. If you can notice and respect the interlocutor at least a little, you will notice how life is gradually changing, because then you will be entrusted with more responsible work. In the meantime, you tire everyone with your presence, study the article.
Usually you are aware of all events occurring not only in the lives of friends and acquaintances, but also in the city. You feel comfortable in any situation, even the company of strangers will cause you interest and excitement, and not anxiety and anxiety. You are loved by others, but one minus is that they are not taken very seriously. Maybe because trying to be in time everywhere, because you need to get information, you rush to all the tasks, not really getting involved in one? Or do you usually follow only your own interest, so you are engaged in a project until it gets boring? In general, it’s fun with you, but if you want to be perceived not only as a “shirt-guy” or a jester, then work on yourself a little by studying, for example, an article.
You enjoy meeting new people, love to learn something new and prefer to have at least superficial knowledge about different areas of life. You are a very curious person, you don’t sit still, and if you don’t communicate with the required number of people during the day, then you don’t feel very good. When difficulties and conflicts arise, you lack the courage and courage to express everything that you think, as you are afraid of losing the favor of your relatives and friends, or appearing inappropriate. Be attentive to yourself, you should not endure something because of the fear of rejection. I recommend looking at the article.
Average level sociability, it is quite possible to say that you are a harmonious person. They are able to support almost any conversation, at least it is interesting and pleasant to communicate with you. They are not intrusive, you always notice that the interlocutor does not want to continue the conversation, and also that it is time to change the subject. You can stand up for yourself, and without resorting to violence and without losing control of emotions. You are annoyed by excessive talkativeness and empty talk “about nothing”, as well as extravagant antics to attract attention. You prefer a chamber atmosphere more, fun in noisy companies tires you. To improve your communication skills, I recommend that you read the article.
Be a bit wary of new acquaintances, preferring first to look at the person, and then to reveal some details from his life. When you don't like or annoy someone, you don't tell him about it directly, preferring to express aggression indirectly, using sarcasm. Sometimes you are excessive in your sarcastic remarks, although they show the sharpness of the mind, it still repels others a little. Although you are enough talkative person and do not be afraid to be in an unfamiliar environment, at least you do not experience confusion and embarrassment. You can, just in case, read the article, perhaps in some situations you will then be able to do without caustic remarks, speaking directly about your feelings, but not offending the interlocutor.
You don't have many friends, but at least they are very close and loyal, tested over the years and all sorts of difficulties that you coped with together. Acquaintance with a new person causes you anxiety and anxiety, but if the interlocutor manages to captivate you, you are transformed right before your eyes, which cannot be said that some time ago you were embarrassed and nervous, not knowing what to say. Prefer solitude, it is alone with you that you relax and rest. Do not demand changes from yourself, maybe you are just an introvert, so you are not as active and sociable as your other acquaintances and colleagues? Look at the article, suddenly you recognize yourself.
You are having a very hard time, because every conversation with someone is given with great effort. In addition, you tend to replay in your head all the moments that, in your opinion, failed, engaging in self-flagellation, which is why the tension grows, and with it the resistance to repeat the previous experience. But not only you suffer from your lack of sociability and anxiety, but also your loved ones, whom you also try to avoid. They worry and do not understand what is going on in your soul, because you do not talk to them about your feelings, thoughts and desires. You should believe a little in yourself, that you are capable of something and have the right to live freely and happily. Take the first step, love yourself, and gradually you will be able to improve your life. And the article will help you.
