My name is Marina, I am 39 years old, I live in Moscow with my husband and three children. I had been nurturing the idea of capturing “one of my days” in a photo for a long time, but it just didn’t work out. The night before, I spontaneously decided - it is necessary! Interesting to see for yourself, interesting to show to others. The day is the most ordinary, weekday, ordinary one can say. And I have many such days. Since the birth of the younger ones - first a daughter, then a son - I have been a housewife. I never cease to be amazed at this and dream of going to work. But so far things have turned out the way they are.
There are 64 photos under the cut, several of them are collages. Welcome to "one of my days" April 25!
And I can not help but warn that under the cut, in addition to the photo, there are a lot of letters. I never learned how to speak briefly. But I can’t tell you, because just looking at the photo is incomprehensible and uninteresting :)
Today is a day off for me. Even though it's Tuesday. The day off from additional children's activities, which means that no one comes to us and we do not have to go anywhere. Yes, and at home we are in a reduced composition - my husband is on a business trip, the eldest daughter is studying all day.
I must say right away that the younger children are at home, again, due to circumstances, we do not go to kindergarten. From this fact follows the way our day is built.
1. I wake up with the children - for me, sleepy, this is always a small test. I agree, you don’t need to run to work, this is a plus, but you still have to get up and this is a minus. And, unfortunately, I don’t have weekends, vacations and sick days, as at work. Therefore, I try in every possible way to delay the moment of recovery.
2. First, the remote control is used, which launches cartoons with a couple of clicks. This is enough for 15 minutes - the children stretch, move under my barrel and lie quietly. I fall asleep and then...
3. Children remember their tablets, which are much more interesting to them than cartoons - they lie side by side with the tablets and play or watch videos on YouTube - according to their mood. This gives me another 15-20 minutes, but I can’t doze off - they can’t play or watch quietly: they have fun, comment, argue, in general, noise and din.
Meet Varvara, 6.5 years old, and Konstantin, 3 years, 8 months in the photo. By the time of waking up, the eldest daughter Liza (she is 16 years old) had already left for classes at the lyceum - it is located on the other side of Moscow and the journey takes about 1.5 hours.
4. Our large family lives in small-sized conditions, so I do magic twice a day - in the morning I turn the bedroom into a living room / playroom, in the evening - vice versa. After washing, changing clothes, combing - quick cleaning. This vacuum cleaner is my faithful assistant. Makes carpets clean in minutes, just pick it up and press a button. No assembly, no plugging in, no clean up afterwards - no need. Here is happiness! By the way, I take out the vacuum cleaner several times a day, when the room carries so many functions - this is inevitable.
The photo shows the already laid out Lego, which in the morning manages to be contained within the children's tables.
5. I revive my place. I turn on the light in the aquarium (we don’t look at it, I have it in a slightly neglected form, all my attempts to become an aquarist ended in failure, I didn’t have anything beautiful to grow), I turn on the computer.
This corner is my oasis in the house. Sitting in it, I “go out into the world” (actively using the Internet), read books, do makeup, manicure, knit, often even eat at this table
6. We go to have breakfast. In the morning, I never have the desire to mess around in the kitchen for a long time. Therefore, for breakfast, we most often eat cereals, sometimes sandwiches, and sometimes even a warm dinner.
7. Today Kostya and I have millet porridge for breakfast. Varyushka - cauliflower and cutlet. Let me tell you about food. My children are picky. For example, Kostya eats only a single product. Just porridge. Just pasta. Just mashed potatoes. Nothing should be added (well, except for butter, of course). He categorically refuses to eat meat (although he ate everything indiscriminately until the age of 2.5), but he will not refuse sausages and doctor's sausage. Varyushka, on the contrary, hates porridge, but eats any meat and vegetables, loves broccoli. Therefore, such a scattered breakfast.
8. My breakfast is simple, you can see it all in the photo. I call this breakfast "hospital", and in the morning for me this is the most delicious food - porridge and a sandwich with cheese. Sometimes coffee. I rarely drink coffee, the cup in the photo is the first one since February. I suddenly wanted to.
9. After breakfast, while I clean the dishes, the children indulge in idleness and play gadgets. Kostya is back on the tablet. And Varya, a fan of Minecraft, is building something there with a joystick in her hands.
10. Minecraft game (you need to google if I spell the name correctly:))
showed her dad back in December. At first, we had a hard time getting Varia away from the joystick, now the interest has decreased, but still, at any opportunity, it turns on and plays.
11. I make lemonade for everyone. I am a fan of traditional tastes - Duchess, Pinocchio. Children choose different things every time.
12. To my happiness and joy, children enjoy playing gadgets less than playing with each other. Therefore, without a reminder, they put them off and the fun begins. Hit last days- plaid. They have him and a ghost, and a witch in a cloak, and a superhero, and a shelter house, and a picnic bedding. They play with a blanket. They play Lego. This is now such a period, the passion for Lego and the plaid:)
13. While the children are busy playing, I decide to get a manicure. From the photo you can guess that the manicure is not simple, but shellac. I sit in my corner and think about whether I started this in vain. After all, today it so happened that I am waiting for 3 deliveries and for sure they will be brought in the midst of the process. But I console myself with the fact that I can take orders with one hand:)
14. Time check. I am lucky and the first order is brought when both hands are free.
15. Captured for purchase history. Online shopping is a real lifesaver. I like to buy in them much more than regular stores. I sit in comfort, I choose slowly. And the next day, all the purchases at my house. No weights in the hands, walking around the store and standing at the checkout.
16. I immediately sort the chicken parts into bags and freeze. I sort in small portions, so it’s more convenient to use later - sometimes you need 1 chicken, sometimes 3. Also with wings. There are exactly as many of them in a bag as you need for children's soup. If I cook soup for the whole family, I take 2-3 bags.
17. The time of the second breakfast, more than 2 hours have passed since the first one, and the children are already demanding food. Bone sausage and cucumbers. Vare hot dog with curd cheese, cucumber and sausage. And please, don't scold me for sausages, I know it's not useful and all that. But children do not eat them three times a day, and not even every day, and not even every week. So I don't think they do much.
Oh yes, I forgot to write. Have you noticed the tablets among the plates? Yes, yes, that's the kind of mother I am. I allow children to watch cartoons while eating. I don’t see the point in discussing this either, maybe we won’t?:)
18. Unlike children, I do not feel hungry and I make myself the first cup of tea of the day - cold, sweet and with lemon. Adore. It's more like not tea, tea lovers will forgive me, it's a tea drink. But for my taste it is very tasty.
19. I am finishing my manicure, reading the news and the LJ feed at the same time. Of the news, I was interested in this one - a schedule for turning off hot water. I already know our plans for the summer and follow the link with interest to find out when the water will be turned off in our area. And exactly. "Lucky" as in previous years - at the time of the shutdown we will be in the city, again heat the water with kettles and wash in the basin, brr ..
20. Manicure is ready. Please do not judge strictly. I have little experience, I learned from videos on YouTube. And now for the second month I have been “playing”. Manicure with rhinestones, glitter, drawings - absolutely not mine. Therefore, only a classic. Shellac is a necessity for me, because I am a housewife without a dishwasher. And how many dishes in a family with three children, I think you can imagine.
21. With my freshly manicured fingers, I peel the vegetables and set the chicken noodle soup to cook for dinner. In the soup, all the vegetables are coarsely chopped, dill only in this way, with a sprig. In general, everything is done so that the taste and benefits of vegetables in the broth are, but they themselves are not.
22. Another time check. Morning behind. It's time for the kids to take a break from active games and play with me. Usually I “play” with them separately, due to the difference in age, their needs and interests are different. But today children want to do everything together. And even practice. So I adjust.
23. First we collect squares and circles, then Varya paints her favorite Barbie superheroes, and Kostya plays caps.
24. Together we do articulation gymnastics, they love it, because it is interesting for both to build faces. Together we read and discuss the story with an abundance of the letter "C". Varya does her tasks, Kostya does his own.
And again, I can't explain. I am not a fan of "developers", I am of the opinion that the best way a child develops is by playing, with other children, games, toys, even completing tasks in game form. But we need classes, as there are speech therapy problems. I won't go into details, this will require a whole separate post. But we work with a speech therapist regularly, on other days we do it ourselves. We do articulation gymnastics, develop phonemic awareness, train and enrich speech. And, of course, pronunciation. I have delved into this topic so deeply, I have so many benefits, that sometimes the thought arises - should I change my main profession?:)
25. While the children complete the tasks on their own, I put a cupcake in the microwave to bake. Recipe from the "lazy" series, mix everything, pour into a mold, cover with foil and bake. After 9 minutes, the cake is ready, leave it to cool. In the photo, it is still in the form of a dough, covered with ordinary cling film, in which I made holes. In the screenshot from the phone - a cupcake in a different form, smaller in area.
26. I remember that I forgot to start the wash. I am correcting myself.
27. Another time check. Bring the second delivery.
28. This time it's books. My husband and I discovered an interesting layer - soviet history in posters, postcards, posters. The first time they bought a book as a gift, but they could not resist and ordered the same one for themselves, they got carried away and now they have replenished the collection.
29. I just flip through books and put them away. Watching one of them is not very exciting. It is more interesting to watch together, discuss, remember, sometimes even nostalgic.
30. The time is approaching three o'clock. Soup is ready, let's have lunch. Kostya eats only pasta from the soup, all signs of vegetables are carefully removed. Varyushka eats pasta and meat, in her portion vegetables are mashed and she enjoys eating broth with them. Oh, and when they finally grow up and stop being so picky about food. The topic that I badly taught them to eat - again, we do not discuss:)
31. It remains to wait for the third delivery and you can go for a walk. I decide to tint my eyebrows before going out so that the skill is not completely lost. As usual, some of my cosmetics migrated to my eldest daughter. Here is her table in the photo. To my shame, I don’t even know how to use half of what she has in her beauty box. She uses cosmetics skillfully, if not professionally.
32. For contrast, I decided to take a picture of the contents of my cosmetic bag. In the photo, almost everything that is ... Yes, you can’t call me a fan of makeup ...
33. Taking my first selfie. I doubted for a long time whether it was worth it, since I categorically do not like myself in the photo. But I'm not sure that the moderators will let my post go without my own photo. Therefore, here. As it is:)
34. I call the third courier to find out how long he still has to wait, he promises to be no later than half past four.
35. The cupcake has cooled down and I decorate it in a hurry - for a former food blogger, this is a shame, of course, but there is not enough inspiration for more. Drizzle with icing and sprinkle with grated chocolate candy.. Curtain..
36. Children continue to play with enthusiasm. I have a few minutes to read a book. In fact, I read a lot, especially if the book captivates me, I find time during meals, in the minutes when the children are busy with their games, in the evenings. But now I don't want to read. This book doesn't suit me. I have started and quit several times. Trying again, I don't like unfinished stories.
37. Fortunately, Kostya distracts me from this activity. Varya decided to play Minecraft, Kostya got bored and invites me to read. The last hobby is a book about pencils and, of course, Suteev with his incomparable illustrations.
38. For speed, while waiting for the courier, I prepare clothes for a walk. And here is a surprise. Kostya's demi-season boots have disappeared. More precisely, they disappeared in the fall, when I threw them away - they grew out of size, but I safely forgot about it. We'll have to go for a walk in the winter. And of course urgently order a new pair. I quickly choose what I need and arrange delivery the next day.
39. The third courier finally arrived, I sign, I leave the package on the table and we run away for a walk.
40. Time-check for control. We are at the playground closest to the house, it is quiet and deserted. To be honest, I really don't like walking. I'm bored. I don’t know how to communicate with mothers at playgrounds, endlessly discuss diapers, children’s clothing manufacturers, baby food, etc. - it's not mine. I can't afford to read or play on my phone. I don't leave children unattended. So I loiter around the perimeter of the site, waiting for them to play enough. Or I join the game with them: our favorite thing is that children “fly” in a helicopter (or on some other transport), arrive, for example, in Africa and go on an excursion: they fantasize, telling me that there are elephants at a watering hole, over there giraffes eat trees, and over there a crocodile - run, run! - and so on. After Africa we go to the farm, or to sea bottom, or to the country of cartoons, etc. Sometimes we just wander and look at the bark of trees, leaves, buds, moss. We do not just consider: we touch, stroke, discuss. Children are interested in everything.
41. We walk for a little over an hour, I freeze standing in my coat and we return home.
42. We're home. The clothes are put away, the hands are clean and it's time to enjoy the cupcake. This time we drink tea together. Children are happy, they love chocolate pastries.
43. With enthusiasm we watch the next portion of the film "Mary Poppins, goodbye." This is our second children's film, the first was Pinocchio and immediately became a hit, we have already watched it several times. And from Mary Poppins, the children really liked the songs, sometimes we sing them before going to bed instead of a lullaby.
44. Time control. Evening is fast approaching. I remember the washed clothes, hang them up and go back to the kitchen.
45. Dinner today is simple, but the main thing does not require my active participation. Steamed chicken fillet with vegetables and rice for garnish.
46. Rice in a double boiler is the most delicious. Neither in a saucepan nor in a slow cooker does such delicious rice come out. In fact, it takes almost an hour to prepare.
47. In the meantime, we got our hands on unpacking the last package of delivery. This is an additional set of cards for a children's tablet.
48. I'm trying to solve a non-trivial task - to arrange everything so that it is convenient to use. Arranging like books or stacking is not an option. This is where containers come in handy.
49. Children enjoy playing with these tablets. Tasks look interesting, besides it is exciting to move colored circles.
50-51. On the one hand, the cards are back, on the other - verification. They love the moment of verification. Oops, Kostya made a mistake, although he showed me correctly with his finger, he moved the colored circles to the wrong places with his pens :)
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52. I pour myself another cup of tea and retire to a secluded corner of my eldest daughter, trying to read.
53. Wow, already the beginning of the ninth. We are late today. You need to quickly have dinner and start getting ready for bed.
54. Dinner for children. Kostya eats only rice (a little whim), Varya's plate is more varied, but she can't master everything. Vegetables and rice are eaten, meat is only half.
55. Time control. Children are tired without daytime rest, besides, they have a very active day. The toys are put away. Shower. A magical transformation of the living room into a bedroom.
56. And there are a few minutes to play.
57. I dive into the Internet in my corner again.
58. Kids are sleeping. Wow, how early today. Usually we only calm down by this time, having covered all the songs, getting up five times to drink and go to the toilet. In general, using every opportunity to delay the moment of falling asleep.
59. While the children fell asleep, in silence I mentally compiled a list of necessary purchases. I write everything down until it's forgotten. I always have this list. As soon as one is implemented, I immediately start a new one.
60. Almost at 10 pm, the eldest daughter returns from school. Poor guy. With preparatory courses in addition to her studies, she has very busy days. In addition, she is sick, coughing and wheezing in her throat for three days. But study hard walks. I insist that I need to take a sick leave, she is exhausted so late at night, so she resignedly agrees. We measure the temperature, drink medicine and under the covers.
61. The children are fast asleep. Items have been removed. You can relax and enjoy your holiday. I often spend my evenings watching movies or series. My "gentleman's set" in the photo. Wireless headphones- a great option when children sleep nearby. We have 3 such headphones - for older family members:)
62. Liza made me a pleasant surprise for evening tea - a big, big Snickers. He knows how much I love this bar, but I haven’t bought it for a long time. I pour another large mug of tea, hot this time. From chocolate I master only half, but nothing, there will be an additive for breakfast.
63. And my episode of the last week...
64. Slightly carried away by viewing, it's time to relax for real. In the morning, my cute "alarm clocks" will start our new day with their cheerful laughter. Good night!
Thank you all for your attention and I hope you enjoyed spending this day with us!
5.00 woke up. Cold. Maybe eat? Mother! Dad! Climb! I want to eat.
5.01 And why is it that I am dry in the first place? As if there were no other reason. I want to eat! EAT! And frozen! VERY!
5.05 I am sitting in my father's arms, my mother brought food. Yes, cover it with a blanket. Fine.
5.07 Uh. I don’t want to go to a cold bed, I feel good on my arms. Sleep? What to sleep? What about talking? I can't do that.
5.10 Yes-ah-ah, rock me, well done. You are doing everything right. Warm. You can sleep.
7.00 Why am I in the crib? He seemed to fall asleep in his arms. Ooh traitors. Get up!
7.01 Well, yes, now you can change clothes.
7.05 Can't you change a diaper without taking off your clothes? It is forbidden? It's a pity. Give me this crunchy thing. Napkins? Yes, napkins. How can you not? Ah-ah-ah-ah! Good mom, come on, bring them here! And you can change. They crunch. Hehe.
7.30 Go to the kitchen yourself, climb onto the chair yourself. Can I also feed myself? Got lazy! Porridge? Again? No, are you serious? Yes, I eat oatmeal every day! I'm not an Englishman. What do we have for breakfast? - Oatmeal, sir, what's for breakfast tomorrow? - Oatmeal, sir, and the day after tomorrow? - Meatballs, sir. - Amazing! - Oatmeal, sir. What do you have? The same? You're lying. Damn, it's true, too.
8.00 Let's play. Quiet? Do you want to sleep? Yes, just got up. PLAY!
9.00 Why can't you ride the Kise? Come on, not driving? And why is she to us? Can you iron? Well, that's how I see it. Let me not hit her. I look at it with feeling. Kisa let's go play Kisa-Karenina. Only I don’t have a train yet, but I have a tractor. He can crush too.
12.00 Something upsets everything. I probably want to sleep. No mom, I don't want to sleep. Of course I want to, but I won't. Is there? What about changing clothes?
12.05. Okay, let's get changed. Certainly. Faster! I am hungry! I am sleepy! Ah-ah-ah!
12.10 Yes, food, bed. My favorite. Satisfied and eyes are closed.
12.15 Is that a cat meowing? Where? Mom, how to sleep? I do not want it anymore! Ah-ah-ah!
12:20 pm Okay. I sleep.
12.30 It seems the oatmeal is digested. Ma-a-am! Let's go wash!
12.35 Water, water, wash my face, well, wash it below the back from behind, otherwise it burns. All bought up? Why so little? I want to fall down again! Oh, hair dryer, class. Mom, let me hold it. How can you not? Ah-ah-ah!
12.40 Now you can sleep. Although no. I want to eat! Eat!
12.50 Well, how can you not understand, I want to eat! And what, what did he just eat? Want more!
12.55 I finally thought of it! Am-am. Fine.
13.00 Now you can sleep.
14.45 Hey, ay, I'm up! Mum-mum-mum-mum!
15.00 Mom, where are you going? Why do I need so many clothes? Walk? Don't want. It is not comfortable in felt boots, the face freezes, who invented winter, why? Is it good to breathe fresh air? Mom, wake up, we live in the city center, what's the air like? The more fresh.
15.20 So you'll give me a ride on a sled, okay. What about eating on the road? Did you take it? OK. Let's go to.
15.30 Dog cold. Can we return home? Time to take a walk? And is it long? Seems like a long time. Oh, swings, you can take a walk!
15.50 No, mom, I'm not cold, pump me further. Will I freeze my ass? What ass? The one that is lower back in the back? Yes, how can I freeze her, I have pants, tights, a diaper there. Download I say! Ka-a-a-chai! You don't have to shoot me. Need to go? To whom, me? I don't need. I'm fine here.
16.00 Do not eat snow, why? It's delicious.
4:30 p.m. I'm cold. Ma-a-am! I'm for-a-amerz! Are you cold too? So why are we on the street? Let's go!
16.45 Hurray! We are at home, it's warm! Play! You are tired? From what? We rested, played, walked. They don't get tired of games. Game-a-at!
17.50 I want to eat! E-e-there is! Dad will come and we will? And when will he come? Soon? When is it soon? I'm hungry, I don't want to wait for dad!
18.10 Dad came! Daddy! Do you know how much I love you? Do you know how I waited for you? Let me hug you, my dear! You came and we will ku-u-ushat!
18.20 Be-e-ee. broccoli. And you yourself eat some yummy. Chicken! What about me? Dad, come on. Om-yum-yum, more. Come on, come on, you won't get fat with me.
18.40 Dad, play with me. How are you tired? You were gone all day, rested go. Have worked? What a terrible word, work? Did you earn money for diapers? Do you need to work for them? Wow! And I'm in them ... Well, you yourself understand. Bad luck ... Well, play with me, well, pa-a-ap!
20.00 Something I'm tired. How is it still early to bed? Well, ma-a-am!
20.30 Swim! Hooray! With Dad! Sea battle! Oh my favorite hair dryer! Dad, my mom won't give me a hair dryer! How can you not, too? Ah-ah-ah!
20.45 Get dressed quickly, it's cold.
20.50 Oh, eat. Dad, are you rocking me? Will you turn on the music? Well ... I love you, parents, you are good with me. Good night.
21.00 Nipple? Oh, yes figs with her. I sleep.
Alice Polanuer is 31 years old. She lives in residential area Moscow: gray high-rise buildings, the metro is a 15-minute walk, a clinic, a pharmacy, a small grocery and a large shopping center - everything is within walking distance, but there is still not enough time. To combine work and life with a special baby Alisa is helped by the center for promoting family education “Vera. Hope. Love" . Every morning, from Monday to Friday, she takes Plato there and runs away to work or on business.
- When you, one might say, live in a hospital with a child, the most important thing is to resolve the issue with work. There is no talk of any beauty salons or fitness. Only work, and if there were a couple of hours free - run to the store, cook dinner, clean the house and have some time for yourself, - says Alice.
Alice has just such a free day today. You need to buy food, some household chemicals, go for a jacket for your son for the fall.
- When the doctors said that the child would be born with developmental disabilities, I did not doubt for a minute. As a child, I imagined how I would grow up and take the most unfortunate, weakest baby from the orphanage. Now I say jokingly that the soul of Plato heard me and understood who to go to.
I am a happy mother, because I have the most beloved, the best son in the world. Of course, like any child, sometimes he indulges, behaves badly, and then I get angry. But this feeling is familiar to every mother, it's not about the features of development. And as the most ordinary mother, my son makes me happy.
Plato is my talisman. As he considered it necessary to be born, so he was born. Since then, in life, at least in mine, everything fell into place. I used to spend a lot of time with friends, I could break loose and go on a trip. Now I understand that I am responsible for my son. He is the most important thing I have.
Alice works for an audit company. Today is her first day off in 25 days. She tries to organize her floating schedule so that she can be with Plato in the evenings. On weekdays, when Alice and her husband are working, the boy spends time in the center. On Saturdays and Sundays, his father sits with him.
Alice's parents live in another city, although her husband supported her and fell in love with his son from the very first day, he often goes on business trips. There was a time when Alice was left completely alone with Plato. At first, she didn’t even know how to hold the baby in her arms, and after the first months in the hospital she learned everything: to nurse, weigh, change diapers every half an hour, know in seconds how much medicine has already been received and how much more needs to be given.
- My husband and I fell in love with our son from the very first second. None of us perceives him as some other, alien. Ordinary child.
And thanks to this, I turned into an experienced mother. Before, I would never have believed that I would be like this. I used to be scared at the playgrounds by talking about diapers, but now I myself am like that. Perhaps this is the fate of every woman.
At 16:00 Alice will pick up her son and go to rehabilitation center for a massage, but for now I don’t want to run anywhere. I just want to walk down the street, to finally replace that it is already the end of August, the air smells of approaching rain and autumn, but my heart is calm.
- At the age of 18, I dreamed of a different life - a bright, eventful, reckless, not one where home-work-garden-child-home. And I certainly didn’t see myself as Plato’s mother. More precisely, I could not imagine that such happiness would happen to me. Now I treat life rationally and do not look far. The only thing: I want to relax by the sea, always with Plato, and I also want him to become a boxer. Why not?
In the mornings, Alice often sees mothers who bring their paralyzed children to the center in their arms; she sees her father who works with his special child at the center every day from morning to evening, but she also sees children abandoned by their parents and those to whom mothers come once a month.
It is very difficult for a mother who has given birth or knows that she will give birth to a child with disabilities. Until she understands where to go, where to look for help, a lot of time can pass.
For me to see this is a betrayal. Caring for a sick child is work, overwork, and in this sense the center is salvation for us. But it's still your bloodline. You gave birth - you are responsible. You have to think about something else besides your inner selfishness. And this is precisely selfishness, when you think that if something is not right, not like everyone else, then it is defective. If we think like this about our children, then who in this world will remain with them?
Family Education Assistance Center “Vera. Hope. Love "is a real lifeline for Alice and dozens of women who are faced with the illness of their child. Once there was a baby house in this building, now 70 children with special needs receive modern qualified assistance here. Most of them do not have families of their own and live in the center permanently; kindergarten like the one that Plato goes to.
- It is very difficult for a mother who has given birth or knows that she will give birth to a child with disabilities. Until she understands where to go, where to look for help, a lot of time can pass, - says Olga Kechina, social pedagogue of the center. - What can they say to her in the clinic: well, go through an examination, an examination for disability. They don't give much advice. And here, firstly, they immediately start working with the child, and secondly, they give the mother a kind of road map, they simply explain how she should live, where to go next. At first, such parents think they are alone. Then it turns out that they are not alone, and it turns out that something can be done, it turns out that they and their child are loved.
Alice sorts through the children's things on a hanger in the store.
- This blue jacket would fit Plato under the color of his eyes!
Now I am calm. I know that my son will be taken care of at the center while I am here or at work. I know that they will do what I might not be able to do on my own. Speech therapists, defectologists, and art therapists work with children at the center. Children are organized excursions to the petting zoo, to the market, to the shopping center. So they learn to live in this world, and the world, that is, society, learns not to be afraid of them and to accept them.
I remember that Plato was 3 months old, after a heart operation he fell ill, pneumonia occurred. An ambulance arrived, the doctor examined Platosha, and then take it and say: “Does he move at all with you? Like a vegetable." I felt embarrassed then. Time passed, Plato crawled, rolled off the bed, now he is running around in such a way that you won’t catch him.
Yes, he may not become a professor, but he will serve himself, speak and understand someone else's speech, generally socialize.
The point is that what before the child assistance begins, the better the result, and the center for promoting family education knows about it. Many mothers bring children with serious diagnoses in the hope that their child will be taught at least to understand someone else's speech, and then they are surprised how many skills he has mastered. Educators and teachers show them how a child can be rehabilitated, what progress he can achieve. Yes, he may not become a professor, but he will serve himself, speak and understand someone else's speech, generally socialize. This important task, with which the parents of special children most likely cannot cope on their own, especially when they need to think about where and how to make money.
Alice is also worried that she spends little time with Plato. She remembers how she lacked parental attention as a child, when her mother, a journalist, and her father, a writer, disappeared at work. Now she understands that there was no other way. But her beloved grandmother was always by her side. Platon grandmother is replaced by her favorite teacher in the group - Lyudmila Nikolaevna.
— In the center “Vera. Hope. Love” amazing people work. For any child, even the most difficult, whether it be autism or a complex form of cerebral palsy, they find an approach. For example, Lyudmila Nikolaevna. It is difficult to say how she does it, but even those children who do not perceive anyone run up to her, hug, kiss. Probably the secret is that she loves them and loves her job.
Children with special needs are admitted to the day care group of the center free of charge, which is very important for a family that spends all their finances on medicines and rehabilitation. Children are loved and taken care of here, they are provided with the necessary assistance. Now only 12 children from all over Moscow can study at the center.
The main fear of “special” parents is tomorrow, in which they will no longer be young and will not be able to protect their grown children.
The Galchonok Foundation is raising funds to open another such day care group for special children as part of a kindergarten. Anyone can help open the group - through the Blago.ru platform. So you will help Alice and other mothers to live and work without fear, knowing that their child is not hidden from the world, but is learning to live in it. After all, the main fear of “special” parents is tomorrow, in which they will no longer be young and will not be able to protect their grown children.
The traditional system of education is built like this: the teacher explains new material, in the class he understands in detail. Then the students memorize it, repeat it at home, and the teacher checks their knowledge during control works or answers on the board. Designed for children who did not know how to read before school. Learning to read and write goes hand in hand. In mathematics, more attention is paid to numeracy skills, less development logical thinking. The content of the material is constantly updated.
Program "School 2100"
Close to traditional teaching methods. Basic principle: development of the child's personality, individual approach. Each child has his own minimum and maximum tasks. Training is built according to the scheme "from simple to complex". Each time, children are offered not to perform fundamentally new tasks, but similar to the previous ones, but at a more complex level. The purpose of the program: to teach children to navigate in any situation and to adapt to new conditions more easily.
Program "Harmony"
The main idea of the program is the comprehensive development of the child, the preservation and strengthening of the physical and mental health of the child. Focused on the creativity of the child, the program is built on traditional national culture. The learning process combines different types activities: gaming, cognitive, speech, design, natural history, mathematics, etc. Much attention is paid to fine arts. The structure of the program provides for work in two directions: the accumulation of social experience of knowing oneself and the world around (see, hear, play) and the implementation of this experience in the conditions of the child’s independent creative activity (do, create). Training in the classroom is carried out with small subgroups of children (5-8 people) with the determination of the mandatory minimum of program material that a child can learn, taking into account his age and individual capabilities.
waldorf program
The program of the Waldorf Schools combines academic subjects with artistic and practical skills. Widely used and artistic techniques, there is no system of competitive assessments and indicators. IN primary school little attention is paid to academic subjects. Reading is not taught until grade 2, although children are introduced to letters (in grades 1 and 2). IN high school(grades 1 - 8) students have a class teacher (main) who teaches, observes and takes care of children and stays with the class for all 8 years of school.
The main activities in Waldorf schools are art, music, gardening, foreign languages (usually 2 in high school). IN elementary school subjects are introduced gradually from the artistic environment, since children respond better to this environment than to dry lectures and cramming. All children learn to play the flute and knit.
Parents are required to participate in school life.
L. V. Zankov's program
The developing program of very high level of complexity. The child is subject to increased demands. He must be absolutely healthy and developed intellectually. The child needs at least basic reading and counting skills, good attention and memory. With this program, the success of teaching is much more than with the traditional system depends on the personality and professionalism of the teacher. Homework is designed in such a way that the child will probably need the help of parents. Zankov's program develops thinking, teaches you to reason, get information yourself and draw conclusions. Emphasis is placed on teaching science and mathematics. The disadvantages of the program are that it is designed only for elementary school, and in high school, children have to adapt to a different system of education.
Community Program
This is an international project of the Open Society Institute. Two teachers work with each class: main and assistant. The main goal of the program is to develop the child’s abilities that would help him adapt in life, constantly learn, think critically, be able to make choices and be responsible for them, set and solve problems, take care of people, and show ingenuity. At first, children are not graded, but successes are noted. The class is divided into several "Centers" of creativity, science, writing, reading. There is a corner of privacy. At the beginning of each school day, the child decides what he wants to do today. IN educational process parents must be involved.
School of Tomorrow Program
This program includes intensive training English language. The basis of the program: individualized training. Each child is given the opportunity to learn so many educational material which he can assimilate according to his ability. After the child learns to read and write in English in the first grade of elementary school, he moves on to the main program. The program includes 5 core subjects: Mathematics, English, Social Sciences, natural Sciences, word formation, Russian language and literature. The child has his workplace, called "office", where in front of him there is always a map of his progress (success) and a map of goals (tasks) with which he works every day. Coming in the morning, the student checks what goals he has set for himself for today, and begins to work independently. Before going home, the student sets himself goals for tomorrow.
Gymnasium classes
Training goes according to an in-depth and extended traditional program. The gymnasium program is quite complex, designed for practically healthy children with high level intellectual development. Foreign language Starts in 1st or 2nd grade. Second language learning begins in high school. The program may include additional subjects: rhetoric, art history, choreography, etc.
Based on the materials of "Komsomolskaya Pravda"
