We approached the preparation of this article very responsibly. It contains materials from various published publications, conferences, trainings and of course personal experience. The article is filled practical advice, awareness and application of which will certainly lead to changes in your life. We'll tell you where to start. Further actions each person must determine for himself individually, in accordance with what he wants to receive. Well, let's go! How to change your life for the better.

How to change your life for the better

Where do thoughts of life change come from?

Everyone wants to be happy, but in order to make a dream come true, sitting and waiting in one place is not enough. Therefore, we have to act.

First, thoughts come that say that everything is enough, it’s no longer possible! And they, in turn, materialize in actions. This, of course, with a responsible approach to one's own life. After all, you can do nothing to change the situation, bring yourself to a moral void (which is very undesirable, since it is difficult to get out of there). In this regard, with any prompting of the mind and soul to action, it should immediately begin to make the first attempts to change its life.

First steps - how to start change ?

Everyone intuitively knows and feels that start better with yourself. But it is very difficult to do this, and, in general, the first steps are always the most difficult. But the essence of the problem also lies in the fact that it is necessary to choose the only correct path along which it will be necessary to go, without turning, for some time. And also decide what exactly you would like to come to. For this you need:

1. Do a little research on your life and your own "I". Think about what points you would like to correct, do better, what you don’t like at all, and what aspects it is desirable to eliminate by and large. It is easier to carry out such work not in the mind, but on a sheet of paper, writing down all the exciting points, separating, of course, the positive from the negative.
2. Then you need to paint each position, that is, write opposite the desired one - why would you like to achieve this? And how to reach the goal. Those items on the list that carry a negative connotation must also be painted, and then crossed out and forgotten about.

It is precisely this action - writing down your desires, aspirations, needs on a piece of paper - that is the first step towards changing your life, becoming better! It's time for a change! The checklist helps to determine the goal most accurately and understand what needs to be removed from life and what to add in order to make it satisfy you.

A start! But one cannot expect instant improvements, transformations and metamorphoses. This process is quite lengthy and difficult. You need to have a lot of patience. Expecting quick changes can only spoil the whole mood, which will lead to an inevitable breakdown and return to your “trough”.

To change your life, you need to tirelessly, constantly work on yourself. It is possible that at first bad thoughts will swarm in the head, the mind will seek all sorts of evidence that happiness is the lot of other people, etc. Almost everyone who has embarked on the path of positive changes sins with this. The main thing is not to stop, pull yourself together and continue! And in order not to slip back into your previous settings, you need to use the following recommendations and ways to change your life in a positive way.

In order to succeed in any business, you need to draw up a detailed plan of action before starting it. So the first recommendation is:

#1 Writing instructions

It is desirable that each maneuver on the way to the goal be considered in detail. This is important, because you can’t forget anything, you need to do everything right. And then you can expect the desired effect.

Remember order in your head and thoughts = order in life! This should become an axiom on the way to change.

How to make a good plan? To do this, you should return to the very first step - your wish list. It already outlines how to achieve each goal. And now this list is very useful. Just so as not to miss a single detail and make detailed instructions from the notes.

Each list item can be represented as a table. For example, there is a target: lose weight .

Obstacles	What can help?	Actions	What will give you what you want?
1. Lack of willpower needed to endure a diet. 2. Addiction to food. 3. Unhealthy snacks. 4. Jamming problems.	1. Literature. 2. Internet. 3. Nutritionist, gastroenterologist and endocrinologist. 4. Marathon with a friend. 5. Motivating pictures.	1. Develop a menu for proper nutrition. 2. Gradually connect the sport (when?). 3. Weigh yourself once a week. 4. Come up with a reward system.	1. Health. 2. Beauty: clear skin, healthy complexion.

Of course, each column of the table can contain many more items. Everything is individual. It will also be useful to start a diary or blog, where, in addition to the goals themselves, you can write down your slightest achievements, describe mistakes, etc.

#2 Set up for the best result

Always, as soon as despondency and bad mood begin to win back positions, you need to to force oneself get back on the positive wave. In any way: read affirmations, do something calming, listen to music, etc. It’s good to always have some motivators on hand for such cases. At least just your list, which lists all the good points that change will give.

You always need to remember for what purpose everything was started. Do not be shy to say out loud to yourself that everything will definitely turn out, write down achievements. After all, they are quickly erased from memory in the face of even the smallest setbacks. Seeing the dynamics of positive changes in front of you, it will be much easier to survive a period of decline.

How to act correctly at this stage? You need to eliminate negativity from your life.

1. Avoid quarrels and disputes. And, in general, from all sorts of clashes with people.
2. Always find a compromise. Or you can simply ignore the conflict situation.
3. Learn to enjoy the little things, pay attention only to the bright, good, positive around you. This leads to good changes and facilitates the transition to a new stage of one's being.
4. You need to let go of your past.. Forgive yourself all the negative, sad moments, imperfect actions, etc. Now you should think about a new life, but you need to be "here and now."

Of course, on the way to happiness, there will be breakdowns and explosions. But we must not allow them to cross out the entire path and return to the level from which it was started, if not lower. Constant work on yourself will not allow this to happen.

#3 Unnecessary and bad habits are a force that pulls back

This refers not only to alcohol, smoking, etc. But, in general, all the habits that do not let go in a new happy life. What could it be? It's simple:

• talk to the mother;
• go to bed late, constantly be in a state of extreme lack of sleep;
• forget promises;
• be lazy;
• put off everything for tomorrow;
• eat or pass a lot;
• watch TV often
• play toys on the phone;
• forget to wash your hair :)
• bite your nails, etc.

Everyone will continue the list for himself. There are no perfect people, but no one interferes with striving for perfection. Getting rid of the harmful, and acquiring the useful, you yourself will feel better, more confident in yourself.. Getting rid of addictions is a difficult, but entertaining and important process on the way to how to change your life for the better. This item must be included in the plan for joyful change. And today, start replacing the bad with the good. For example, normalize sleep, exclude watching television from the daily routine, review nutrition, etc. Over time (perhaps not immediately), the new habit will take root and take one step closer to a wonderful positive future. If you know this feeling, then remember it more often: the feeling when you realize that you have done tremendous work on yourself and achieved a certain breakthrough! This will give you self-confidence, strength to move on, set new goals.

#4 Being open to people is moving forward

• You can not hide from people, your relatives, relatives, friends, colleagues. It means those who can cheer up, support, simply lift the spirit with their presence. If someone you know has something that is on your wish list, then you need to impartially consider the situation and think about what action allowed this person to have your dream. And it is better to ask how he went to this goal and achieved it. Perhaps the advice will be useful, and today it will be possible to fit them into your own plan.

• Should communicate more with friends. It is not necessary to share your experiences and problems, especially if you do not want to do this. You can simply charge yourself with positive energy from a pleasant pastime, conversations dear to your heart. The world seems much more beautiful when there is a person in the world on whom it is possible to rely.
• But contacts with evil, pessimistic, dull people should be significantly limited. And if possible, avoid them altogether.

good incentive for personal growth is the person next to whom you need to grow, not fall!

By the way, new acquaintances also allow you to move forward, changing your old ideas and attitudes to new life directions. After all, they teach to open up to the world.

#5 Interests and hobbies are the way to go!

We need to remember what we were fond of in childhood. This is often the calling. For example, you really liked to collect autumn leaves or clumsy sticks that look like animals, sew or knit, decorate old furniture, cook or bake, paint something on whatman paper, teach other children new foreign words, etc. Or maybe not in childhood, but in adult and fully conscious life, I wanted to do something, but somehow my hands didn’t reach or I was overcome by doubts. But any person who finds himself in his favorite business is happy. So why don't you be happy too!?

In addition, interests can be quite mundane. If it is a pleasure to read, needlework, play sports, then it is worth allocating time for this. And when it seems that nothing is of interest, it only seems to be. A huge number of things exist in this world in order to distract from sad thoughts and not allow despondency to win and push back to the beginning of the path. There are many interesting courses and classes that can inspire. And inspiration brings joy!

Step by step comes the realization that there is no way back, that the heart is completely open to change, the best and most beautiful changes in life. But these recommendations are not quite enough to turn the world upside down in a good way. Therefore, more tips are vital that will change your life.

How to start new life and change yourself? You don't have to be superhuman to do this. All methods are incredibly simple. The main thing is to start and over time there will be no trace of pessimism, suffering and complaints.

1. No best life-changing methods will help if you constantly clog your body. It is necessary to pay attention to quality and. We are what we eat! It is not necessary to eat only vegetables and fruits from your own garden and not drink alcohol at all. You just need to limit the flow of garbage inside as much as possible.
2. Start learning another language. Not only will this be an amazing mindset, but it will also be a great opportunity for professional change. Sometimes, in an attempt to remember a new word, you begin to think about its meaning, look for synonyms. All this leads to the development of thinking, makes you go beyond the ordinary, thus leading to change. And besides, now the knowledge of the same English is more a necessity than a whim.
3. Need to read more. Not magazines and other light reading, but something for development in one's specialty. Or classics, sociology, psychology, history, etc. You can not read, but listen. The main thing is that at least one book in 7 days. It turns out about 52 per year. Fifty-two works that are sure to change lives.
4. Weekends should not be spent on the couch. Anywhere - in the gym, outdoors, museum, cinema, exhibition, in another city or visiting relatives. You can even jump with a parachute, learn to ride a horse, type blindly, etc. The main thing is to accumulate more impressions, they fill life, it becomes much more interesting with them. You don't have to sit still. It is necessary to expand the horizons and the area of ​​contact with the world. Change starts with movement.
5. A personal blog or diary will help you deal with problems faster than they become unbearable.. Their usefulness lies in the ability to reason, think and analyze. And it is better to write in them about what you love most. And if Personal diary maybe no one will read it, then the blog will certainly find its fans, and also help to earn extra money. And doing what you like and getting paid for it is the dream of many. Indeed, very often the opposite is true.
6. If you learn to manage your time, it will become much easier to live. It is necessary to develop the habit of making decisions right away, acting today, and not tomorrow or “later”. Everything that is planned must be done or shifted onto the shoulders of another. But, the main thing is that the planned cases are completed, and not postponed indefinitely. Otherwise, they will become dead weight, pulling down. And we need to fly up! And it would be nice to remember everything that was not done and write it down. Find out whether there is a need under the circumstances to complete these cases. If not, then with peace of mind they can be crossed out. If yes, then make them soon. This will bring incredible relief and release many new and much needed forces.
7. You should abandon the stupid pastime on the Internet, especially from games that steal not only time, but also life. If you use the unlimited possibilities of the network, then only with benefit - for development, training, work, etc. And it is better to communicate with friends live. What could be more beautiful than personal meetings, conversations, tactile sensations, laughter, smiles? Shared pleasant memories are created in this way, and not by emoticons on the World Wide Web.
8. To stop being interested in the news does not mean to lag behind the world. Everyone will talk about the main thing. And everything secondary and superficial only interferes with life, causing unnecessary unrest, feelings and obscuring something really important. It's all confusing.
9. No wonder there is such a proverb - who gets up early, God gives him. Having learned to spend the morning hours with benefit, you will soon notice how much more things you can do in a day. Much more than when you go to bed late. A person needs 7 hours of sleep to sleep, provided that he leads healthy lifestyle life. If you go to bed at 23.00 and wake up at 06.00, then during your wakefulness you can turn the whole world upside down. Today, more and more authors and personal growth coaches are advised to start their day as early as possible. People are showing amazing results! There is no limit to admiration when everything is done before lunch and there is time to do something else or do something for your own pleasure.
10. Travel is one of the ways to change yourself and your life.. It is not necessary to fly to distant Australia to understand how diverse the world is. You don't need expensive tours to realize that it makes no sense to consider your small space as the whole Universe - it is much wider and goes beyond the limits of consciousness. Traveling makes a person more tolerant, indulgent to his own weaknesses and others, wise and calm.
11. Creativity allows you to completely change the worldview. Creativity develops the right brain, which helps us to do several things at the same time, without ignoring the details. It doesn't matter what kind of art you do. The process itself is so captivating that there is no time for sadness, melancholy and despondency. Much of what seemed unrealistically important and brought pain recedes and becomes secondary, and then completely disappears without a trace if a person is passionate about something. You can practice:

• photography,
• drawing,
• singing,
• dancing,
• design, etc.

The main thing is that the work gives pleasure. Perhaps in the future it will be able to generate income. To realize yourself in something is very important!

Creative activity has amazing therapeutic properties. It allows you to survive the pain of loss, longing, hopelessness.

1. Exercising tones the body and provokes a surge of happiness hormones.(and improve metabolism). And that is exactly what we are striving for. Therefore, regular physical activity must be one of the points of the plan to change your life.
2. Need to get out of your comfort zone. You don't have to do anything extreme to get started. It’s just worth visiting a place where you have never been, getting to work in a different way, changing appearance or image. Even the simple rearrangement of furniture helps. Sometimes leaving is a painful process, but more often than not, it is what spurs you on to start a new life. This is quite interestingly written in the book of the same name "How to get out of the comfort zone" by Brian Tracy (Brian Tracy) publishing house MYTH. It should be read by anyone who has decided to embark on the path of changing their lives.

1. It is necessary to restore order in the financial sphere. Control of expenses and income, investments and other economic aspects must certainly be present in the plan of a person who wants to change his financial situation. Since nothing can unsettle as financial difficulties. A blow to the wallet stops us on the path to change, and at such moments we don’t even want to think about creativity and healthy eating. Include the problem of money in your Checklist: take an additional part-time job, pay your loan on time, change jobs, ask for a raise, etc.
2. Throw out unnecessary things. Do not take them to a barn or garage, but to get rid of them or give them to someone. And constantly maintain a balance - acquiring a new one, removing the old one. Old things are the ballast of the past. Which reaches for you until you remove it from your eyes. To delete, you need to throw it away. Psychologists advise sorting through your things as often as possible and throwing away those that you have not used for more than one year. Internet is full of big amount projects about getting rid of unnecessary things that really give results.

1. It is important to be able to accept the world "with all the giblets." Refuse assessments and analysis, take a neutral position, but rather a positive one. Eleanor Porter's wonderful book "Pollyanna" teaches you to see the positive aspects in everything very well. You should read it to the end, this girl, the heroine of the work, will teach anyone to enjoy life, even the most inveterate pessimist.
2. Leave the past in the past. It needs to be done! To move on! No matter how good or bad this time may be, it will pull back, which is dangerous for positive change. We must say “thank you” to him for the lessons, experience, good impressions, pleasant memories and other positive moments and let him go in peace. The past has no place in the present, much less a happy future.

And you also need:

• give more than take
• share your knowledge,
• do not be afraid and do not stop in front of obstacles,
• do what you like;
• develop;
• study;
• change from within.

Of course, and that's not all. There is no limit to perfection. But all the ways to change life for the better come down to the fact that you need to change yourself first of all. And then the world will change in response!

But what is stopping you from starting a new life? The enemies of positive change are the mistakes that reformers make. It is they who lead to the fact that any positive decision ends in defeat and a return to the starting position, if not worse.

5 mistakes that stop positive change

1. The main aggressor opposing positive changes is our brain. Very often people forget that its function is to save lives, and not to make a person financially secure and happy in all areas. And he perceives the usual way of life, the established way of life, as a safe niche for existence. Anything that goes beyond this will be perceived with hostility. That is everything new he considers dangerous and threatening human life.

Therefore, when making an important decision to start positive changes, it is important to agree first with yourself.. Failures will be avoided not by the specifics of the goals (although it is also extremely important), but by the simplicity of the steps to achieve it. That is, the most immodest aspiration should be painted in such a way that our defender does not have a desire to give a signal to record a dream as unrealizable.

This influence itself is easy to see when one particular positive thought in terms of changes in better side, there are a million thoughts-excuses from the implementation of the goal in life. For example, did you decide to run every morning? How about:

• Bad weather?
• Will people watch?
• Sneakers are not normal!
• I don't have the energy to do anything today!

Therefore, you need to think through everything to the smallest detail!

1. It is often believed that in order to start changes, you only need to make a decision and that's it, then somehow everything will turn out by itself. Of course, a solution is needed. But in order to achieve the goal, it must be specific. Well, it’s not enough to say: “That’s it, I’m starting a new life tomorrow!” Without having an idea of ​​what it will be like in principle. If there is no clearly defined task, there is no understanding of what exactly the result should be, then all the advice on how to change your life for the better may turn out to be useless. Because the lack of specifics deprives the brain of the ability to understand the goal and issue a solution to the problem in the form of steps to action.

1. The third mistake is the desire to achieve something without an appropriate supportive environment. This is real, of course, but it will require a huge amount of mental strength and nerves, the presence of the most iron willpower in the world and persistent indestructible motivation.

There will always be someone (and more than one) who will undermine confidence, strongly persuade you to turn off a new life path. Perhaps they will be close friends. Of course, you should not break off expensive relationships. But enlisting the support of a community that would share the views on a new life is very important.

1. Another mistake that many who embark on a path of change make is the lack of encouragement. They should be for even the slightest achievement. Because everything needs balance. And it is necessary that the discomfort from the changes (and it will be) is equalized by pleasant, albeit small, but gifts to oneself. For example, for a week of proper nutrition - a good body cream, which has long been dreamed of. For a month - a beautiful dress. It is, of course, for women. Men have their own stimulants and motivations.

1. Mistake number 5 - do not tell anyone about your decision to start a new life. It comes from the fear that nothing will work out. And in fact, it leads to the fact that it is not possible to implement the plan. A saving thought arises in my head: “It’s good that I didn’t tell anyone anything,” etc. In general, a vicious circle. It is not right. You need to speak about your decision, and loudly and confidently. This fact imposes some obligations and indicates the seriousness of intentions. And gives strength and energy for success!

Audacity and courage in any undertaking are the components of future success. But besides this, some other aspects are important.

1. Start your day right. Avoid office conversations in the morning tapa “How tired I am of morning traffic. Wish the work day was over. The kids don't listen to me at all, I'm exhausted. I'm completely exhausted." Think about the pleasant things in your life, smile more often. Mentally fix every time you think about the negative and transform it into a positive direction.
2. Appreciate what you have. We constantly want to achieve something, to get something that is not there at the moment. Always. Having acquired one, we immediately begin to think about the next item on the wish list, which is endlessly updated. And there is no time to just enjoy what you have. And it turns out that life is a game where you have to constantly think about how to move to another level. But still it is very important to stop at least for a short moment and thank higher power for all. The ability to thank yourself, God, the Universe for what you have important point which is often underestimated. Saying grateful phrases to yourself allows you to realize the good that you have, gives you the strength to receive a new one.
3. Take responsibility for yourself. You need to realize that everything that happens is the result of a choice once made. Don't blame others for your own problems. On the contrary, you should get together and start right now to change the situation created by your own hands and thoughts. And then do not forget that no one else can control your life, cope with obstacles and be responsible for your actions and actions. It's difficult, but necessary. An outsider can influence the choice, but only you make it!
4. Help other people, take care of loved ones. Like it or not, love begets love, and a good deed always returns to its source.
5. Listen to your inner voice, trust your intuition.
6. Forgive yourself and others. We all know that forgiveness is the best medicine for the soul. We know, but we continue to bear resentment in our hearts for years, destroying ourselves and our lives with this poison.
7. Eliminate forever from your being such phenomena as laziness and fear. They are the main obstacles on the road to happiness. Laziness arises because you cannot be transported to another life with one click. To do this, you need to work incessantly, constantly act, which you really don’t want to do. But fear can only lead to the fact that, without daring to step into a new life, you will have to end the old one, without knowing what real happiness and joy are.
8. Don't beat yourself up if something doesn't work out.. It is better to praise for efforts and encourage further action, rather than assure yourself of your own worthlessness and abandon all your undertakings.
9. Accept what can't be changed. Leave it alone. And then so you can all your best years spend on fighting what isn't worth it.
10. Need to live own life, not someone else's. Therefore, you should determine your true desires and goals, and go only towards them, and not fulfill someone else's will imposed from outside.
11. End the day right. Never go to bed in a bad mood and in no case do not swear with loved ones before bed. Go to bed on time, even if you feel that you still have the strength to work. You'll get it right in the morning.
12. Remember that there is always the potential inside to change your life for the better.. And for this you don’t need “tomorrow”, “Monday”, “when I lose weight”, etc. You can and should start right now!

Go back to your wishlist. Review it again and know that all of this is achievable. But you need to understand that even the most shabby dream will remain so if you do nothing and continue to live in the power of stereotypes. Expand the boundaries of your consciousness, learn, develop, change yourself. And then amazing changes will not keep you waiting.

Remember: life is a journey, not a destination

A hackneyed but relevant phrase. Live life to the fullest - feel every day, learn new things, and not sacrifice everything for one goal. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work at first. This is fine.

Be honest with yourself and others

Lies suck energy and make a person unhappy. Just imagine how much you need to remember when lying so as not to accidentally spill the beans. What happiness is here. In addition, if you are not honest with yourself, you cannot grow and develop. And if you lie to others, then trust and intimacy disappear in a relationship.

People tell lies for various reasons. Out of envy, out of unwillingness to offend, fear of opening up or entering into. Being honest is hard, but that's the only way to live life to the fullest.

Learn to accept yourself

We often reminisce about past failures and spend too much time thinking about our own. weaknesses. We think about what we don’t like about ourselves, how to change it, and we believe that we should become different. Wasting your life on such reflections and events from the past means not noticing the present and being closed to the new in the future. Make a conscious decision to love yourself just the way you are. Get rid of the burden of memories and negative thoughts.

Define your values

Having formulated values, it will be easier for you to set life goals that will not contradict them. Stick to your beliefs and don't let others confuse you. After all, living in accordance with your principles is much more pleasant than constantly following the advice of others.

Stop putting yourself down

It is believed that self-criticism helps to develop, but research How to Stop the Self-Criticism and Feel Better About You proved Negative influence this approach both on the person himself and on his attitude towards others. The stricter you are with yourself, the higher the chances of treating others in the same way. Downgrading will not help you become better and achieve your goals. Be kind to yourself.

Replace negative thoughts with attitudes. For example, instead of "I'm a failure," say to yourself, "Things didn't go according to plan. But I will figure out why this happened, and in the future I will not make such mistakes. I will find a way to achieve what I want in another way.”

Analyze self-criticism logically. Instead of “I’m stupid, everyone in the group is smarter than me,” think about whether there are objective reasons to think so. Maybe you're just not preparing well enough for class. Maybe laziness is to blame, but not intelligence. Having analyzed the thought in this way, you will understand what steps you need to take without belittling yourself.

Be flexible

Life is full of change. Be open to new things and learn to adapt to the changes that are happening, even if you don’t like them at first. Think of them as an opportunity to gain new experiences. Such positive thinking help develop flexibility.

Getting fired from Apple is the best thing that ever happened to me. The heavy burden of success has been replaced by the carelessness of a novice, less confident entrepreneur. I have freed myself to enter one of the most fruitful periods of my life.

Steve Jobs, American entrepreneur, CEO of Apple

Keep fit

Taking care of the body is another step on the way to a full life. You have one, and it's important to make sure it's healthy. It's hard to live busy life when it hurts here and it hurts there.

Eat right. Eat as many fruits, vegetables, complex carbohydrates as possible. Try to avoid foods high in sugar, but still treat yourself to a piece of cake or a glass of wine from time to time.

Go in for sports. Regular exercise will help you feel healthier and happier.

Stop forcing yourself

People often force themselves to do things that are at odds with their values ​​and desires. Coercion causes irritation, frustration and sadness. If you get rid of this, then living a full life will become easier.

As soon as "I should" enters your mind, think about why you feel that way. For example, "I need to lose weight." This may be the advice of a doctor or the desire of a person with a different perception of beauty. In the first case, changes are really needed; in the second, they can even be dangerous. Do only what is important to you, not what others demand.

Method 2. Go your own way

Leave your comfort zone

The more often you perform unusual actions for yourself, the higher Anxiety Can Bring Out the Best your performance. How harder task put in front of you, the faster you get used to the new and calmer perceive life's difficulties. Getting out of your comfort zone helps you become more flexible, and we've already found out how important this is.

Start small. Go to a place you don't know anything about. Go on a spontaneous journey or do something at work that you haven't done before.

Be Realistic

Set goals according to your abilities, taking into account your skills and. Strive for what is important to you, and do not compete with others. Achieving what you want should depend only on your needs, but not on the desire to show off or prove something to someone.

Be prepared for things to go wrong

When a person lives a full life, he takes risks. He makes decisions that have consequences. And sometimes they may not turn out as planned. It is important to understand that life is unpredictable, and to treat surprises calmly. The ability to be ready for anything makes it possible to be one step ahead and calculate the options for the development of events.

Look for opportunities to learn

Don't sit still and let life just take its course. Be active, learn new things, make your brain work. Analyze your experience and the experience of others. This will help you to be calmer in difficult situations and will allow you to confidently move forward.

Know how to thank

Gratitude is not just a feeling - it's a lifestyle. It will help you survive the traumas of the past, if you consider them not as pain, but as a valuable experience, and be grateful to life for it. It will strengthen relationships with loved ones, and without them it is extremely difficult to live a full life.

Tell relatives, friends and others important people how glad you are that you have them. Share gratitude, do not be afraid to express it, and life will be filled with pleasure and harmony.

Appreciate every moment and don't focus on the bad. Appreciate the beauty of everyday life, be grateful to life even for the little things: a beautiful sunset, good weather and delicious coffee.

The more pleasant little things you notice, the better life will become.

Keep a diary

Try not just to record the events that have occurred, but to analyze them. How did you react, why did it happen, how did you feel then and now, and what would you do if this situation happened again. All this will show what is going well in life, and what needs to be worked on more.

laugh

Laughter is the best medicine. It lowers stress hormone levels and improves mood. Plus, it's contagious. If you laugh, others will, and this is the easiest way to create emotional and social connections.

Don't chase material things

Too many things won't make you happier. Do not buy impulsively, do not try to get rid of stress through shopping. Buy only what you really need.

If you already have a lot of useless things, donate them to charity. Get rid of everything you don't like and start living free from material assets life.

A person picks up the emotions of others as easily as a cold. If you spend a day with happy people you will start to feel better. If you communicate with gloomy and dissatisfied with life, then this will also affect your mood. Only negative. Therefore, it is important not to waste time on toxic people.

Surround yourself with those who care about you, who respect you and others.

But this does not mean that friends and loved ones cannot constructively criticize you. Sometimes you still need someone to point out mistakes. But it is important to feel that people do it with kindness, respect and care. That they really help you get better.

Discuss your needs

Confidently express your thoughts and needs, but remember that others have desires that need to be heard. Be open and honest, but don't blame or judge people.

It's good to be honest with the person that they hurt you. Explain what exactly bothered you. It is bad to accuse him of inhumanity without a specific explanation of the reason.

To prevent people from taking your words as accusations, always say "I". For example, "I felt like my needs weren't important when you didn't pick me up from work" instead of "You didn't even pick me up from work, you don't care about me."

Instead of judging the actions of others, try to understand why they did it. Ask to tell more about the reasons, find out someone else's point of view. If you still disagree with the opinion, tell us why and offer an alternative.

Be selfless

Often the thought that we deserve more is what keeps us from moving forward. Giving, but not receiving in return, we are in people, life, justice. It's hard to live a full life when there is such darkness in your head. Therefore, it is important to share love, kindness, warmth and care disinterestedly.

But this does not mean that you can allow yourself to wipe your feet. Stop any attempts to take advantage of your good attitude.

Forgive yourself and those around you

Hard, but good for the soul. By forgiving, you will be freed from stress, let go of the accumulated negativity and feel light. Learn to forgive people, despite their behavior, and this will help heal spiritual wounds.

It is important to forgive not only others, but also yourself. Stop thinking about mistakes and blaming yourself for what you did. The past cannot be changed. Use this experience as an opportunity to improve. Show yourself the same empathy that you show others.

Accept people for who they are

It can be difficult to communicate with a person who is so different from us. But do not try to change it and adjust it for yourself. Remember that each person is a unique individual who can teach you something new. Be kind and polite in any company. Enjoy the company of other people. Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated.

To be beautiful and charming is the main vocation of a girl. It is not necessary to have a Hollywood appearance in order to please men and feel confident in yourself. Every woman at least once in her life asked herself the question: “How can you change yourself outwardly?”. Minor reincarnations are required by the very nature of women. Changing outwardly, bringing changes in the image, we feel renewed. To do this, it is not necessary to resort to plastic surgery and buy expensive cosmetics.

How to change appearance beyond recognition

Each representative of the fair sex thinks about how to change her appearance for the better, to create an extraordinary image. Surprisingly, sometimes small details are enough. Expressive eyeliner, plump lips, confident demeanor, easy gait, and your friends and acquaintances will not recognize the former modest woman in you.

What to change?

How to change yourself outwardly, look attractive and surround yourself with enchanted glances? The girl can start the transformation with:

• hairstyles;
• make-up;
• clothes;
• manners of speech;
• elements of behavior.

To change beyond recognition, start with your clothes, makeup, hair. Analyze the strengths and weaknesses of your appearance. What would you like to see new in your reflection? Pick up the appropriate sets of clothes, add severity or lightness, luxury, grace, femininity to the image. It is not necessary to radically change the entire wardrobe. Carefully examine the things in the closet, combine the existing outfits, complementing them with accessories.

How to change your appearance at home?

You should not start changing your appearance with plastic surgery. Try to pick up makeup, for this, practice at home, in front of a mirror, or contact a makeup artist. The new image should not be very different from the usual. If you are thinking about how to radically change your appearance, consider how the new image will fit into your usual life. Take courage and decorate your body with a tattoo if you have long dreamed about it, or get a short haircut, change the shape and color of your eyebrows.

How to change the image?

Don't know how to change your appearance for the better? Choose the image of an actress or singer that appeals to you the most, try out her makeup or hairstyle. To answer the question of how to change the image of a girl, decide on the look of one day. For an everyday look of femininity, buy shoes with a small heel, make lush curls out of straight strands, change a backpack or baggy bag for an elegant and stylish one.

Where to begin?

To change yourself externally and internally, you should work daily:

• Get up 40 minutes earlier and do morning exercises. This healthy habit will transform the body and add energy for the day ahead.
• Eat right, only healthy food stimulates the preservation of positive undertakings.
• Always be elegant, even when you go out to the store.

Tired of office clothes, want some creativity? Then bright flying blouses and jeans with an original pattern will help create a feeling of lightness. The main thing is not to be afraid of changes, but to go towards your desires. If in doubt, consult a professional stylist. He will competently select a new image based on your external data. Make an appointment with a manicure and make-up artist, put your hands in order and pick up a beautiful make-up.

How to change your style?

Improve yourself, just a feeling inner harmony perceived by others as attractive. Even the most charming girl from the first phrases can give out a gray mouse in herself. Regardless of appearance inner world should be rich and developed, think positively and smile a lot. A few tips:

• read books;
• find yourself a hobby;
• spend time with friends;
• rejoice every day.

To change your style, imagine a new image, visualize it. Then pay attention to the details of this picture - dreams. How do they differ from current realities? Sketch a new image, then picking up clothes, makeup, accessories will not be difficult. Master treasured qualities such as confidence, femininity, sensuality, physical health.

The program for changing the appearance in the photo

Sometimes we do not get pleasure from our image in the photo. This is because we do not know how to behave in front of the camera. Before avoiding the camera, learn how to change the appearance in a photo. By using computer programs, correcting the image, perhaps.

They say that a habit is formed in about a month. We have already told you about that, and now we have a more optimistic topic: how to form good habits. If you want to get into the habit of doing something good, it requires determination and, dare I say it, cultivation. Therefore, it is worth challenging yourself for at least 30 days in order for the result to become noticeable. Yes, it's not easy. To determine if you need to get involved in all this, ask yourself: “Where do I want to be in five years?” What habits will help you with this? Better start changing now and your life will start changing with you!

It's never too late to get better, so pick one or more and get started today! Keep a record of your progress, tell your friends about it, and keep going. Be warned: if you choose too many habits for yourself at once, you can fail - so don't overdo it.

1. Write or tell someone every day what you like about them. (Just)

You can express it both orally and in writing: in a note, sms or by e-mail. This is a great way to show that you care about this person. We so often focus on the bad that we forget to talk about the good. This is how you make someone's day a good one without putting in the effort.

2. Talk to a stranger every day (difficult)

That's cool! Helps to overcome the fear of talking to someone first. Has it ever happened to you that you want to approach someone and are afraid, and therefore convince yourself that in fact you do not want this at all? Say goodbye to this baseless fear! If you talk to strangers 30 times, you will eventually realize that people are just people and there is nothing wrong with talking to someone you don't know.

3. Take a photo every day (difficult)

It will become difficult by the end of the test, because you will start to run out of ideas. But this way you can make a real photo diary - a very interesting thing!

4. Daily reassessment of your opinion(medium)

It is very useful, by the way, to rethink one's own beliefs and in this way get rid of prejudices and other obscurantism, clearing the mind for new beliefs - more relevant, better applicable to life.

5. Daily half-hour walk (Just)

Walking is good for health, it relaxes and serves as a source of inspiration. And it's easy and absolutely free! While walking, it is very interesting to look at other people, thinking about how they are similar and how they differ - between themselves and specifically with you. In this way, you will develop observation and the ability to empathize.

6. Take time to praise yourself. (Just)

Do you love yourself? Do you console yourself after you make a mistake? It is very possible that you are too demanding and hard on yourself. This is all because our society sets for people such high standards which are almost impossible to achieve. And so we often think that we are not good enough, that we do not deserve something there. This is something like self-flagellation, which is often compared with self-deprecation - and this is a completely different phenomenon, aimed at the backlash of others. In general, neither is good. And this skill will teach you to accept you the way you are - even with flaws that you don't really like. You will become less disappointed in yourself and begin to accept your imperfections as an integral part of life. And how you are perceived by others also depends on your attitude towards yourself.

7. Try a new recipe every day (medium)

If you want to learn how to cook, you only need one thing: practice, practice, practice! Challenge yourself: try a new recipe every day and you'll learn new techniques and ingredients. And so you can get rid of and turn them into healthy ones.

8. Give up alcohol, nicotine and other drugs for a month (individual degree of difficulty)

Do you remember the last time you came home sober from a party? Can you even have fun without being under the influence of substances that alter your perception? It's a tough challenge to learn how to resist social pressure.

9. Write a 50,000 word story in a month (difficult)

Ever dreamed of writing a book? Do it. Do it in a month.

10. Learn to draw a human face in a month (environment)

We already told you. Use our manual, if you still want to learn it - practice every day, seven days a week! Challenge yourself and you will be surprised how much progress you can make in 30 days.

11. Watch documentaries every day (Just)

Ever dreamed of broadening your horizons? Fortunately, the 21st century is in the yard, the era of computers, unlimited Internet and torrent trackers! You can find a lot on the net documentaries and learn almost everything about everything.

12. Read a chapter of a book a day (Just)

Yes, yes, we know: reading is useful, stop sitting at the computer and spoil your eyes, spoil them with a book, you will be well-read. If you don’t have a soul for this at all, read at least a chapter a day. One by one. It's easy, right? Let it turn into a pleasant pastime: sit in a chair, pour yourself tea or coffee, turn on the ambient.

13. Study the subject you are interested in for a month (difficult)

Always wanted to understand zoopsychology? Philosophy? Stories foreign literature middle ages? Do self-education! Choose a topic, develop a plan - and go!

14. Take a new road to university or work every day. (Just)

This good way get to know your city better, and also understand the many different transport routes - especially if you have recently moved. And you will also turn a routine into an adventure and pay attention to how much interesting things lurk in seemingly familiar places.

15. Read an article on Brodude every day (Just)

A great way to get inspired and get new ideas - and just have fun!

16. Give up the media for a month (medium)

Don't watch TV and stop reading newspapers and news websites. Limit yourself to reading, say, five blogs. Block your social media accounts. Stop overloading yourself with information, live simply. You will be surprised how much free time you have!

17. Give up a bad habit for a month (difficult)

Do you smoke? Do you always see the negative side of things? At your place low self-esteem? Do you eat fast food? Do you play too many video games? Ditch something for a month and choose something from our list instead.

18. Get inspired every day (Just)

Research has shown that people who have sources of inspiration are always happier, more enjoyable, more productive, and stay on track if they encounter difficulties. So print out some quote and stick it to the mirror. Get yourself an inspiring video and put it on your homepage. Read mantras. Get yourself life principles. In short, inspire yourself every day!

19. Take a cold shower every day. (medium)

A cold shower improves mood, relieves stress and illnesses that it causes, strengthens immune system and good for the skin.

20. Think about the achievements you want to make in the next 30 years - one year a day (difficult)

This is real shock therapy! You will not be able to answer this question for yourself until you comprehend what your life is like and in which direction it is likely to develop. By the way, a reason to somehow change, to think about your own progress. And do some introspection.

21. Practice something every day (Just)

You can choose any skill for yourself and practice it. For example, all my life I wanted to learn how to make up magazines and could not complete my studies. Here I'll try. And also there is a lot of everything: dancing, cooking - fantasize!

22. Walk up the stairs without using escalators and elevators (Just)

Sometimes I look at these escalators in malls and they seem ridiculous to me. Especially when fat people ride on them. Too lazy to move again. So take the stairs every time you get the chance. It's healthy and doesn't look funny.

23. Wake up early every day (medium)

Even Aristotle said that waking up before sunrise is good for health, wealth and wisdom.

24. Keep a diary (medium)

It is very good to keep notes for memory, and it is also useful for introspection. Then it will be very pleasant to re-read this and return to the past, remember your golden days.

25. Don't lie for a whole month (difficult)

Here is the challenge! Stop deceiving yourself and others, speak from your heart. This will greatly develop your personality: you will begin to really think about bright things so that you don’t have to lie.

26. Combine these challenges (Just)

Take pictures of yourself reading different books in different places. Walk 10,000 steps along a new route and talk to a stranger along the way - ask him for some recipe. Challenge yourself every day for one day. Wake up to meditate and praise yourself. And finally - a cold shower!

27. Do something that scares you every day. (difficult)

Fear is what keeps you from getting better. The only way overcome it - go towards it.

28. Don't complain (difficult)

I'm sure you won't be able to do it from day one. Even if you're such an all-around positive guy, it's hard not to have negative feelings all day long. Don't be discouraged if you fail, everything comes with practice. A very good way to learn to keep your thoughts under control.

29. Meditate every day (medium)

The best time is right after waking up or before going to bed. Very helpful!

30. Do something selflessly every day (Just)

Look around and help someone who deserves or doesn't even deserve your kindness. Help your neighbor take out the trash. Give money to the homeless. Make notes about it.

Realizing that you are not living the way you would like can lead to a sense of impasse and disappointment in yourself. Although it is not easy to change yourself, this work is worth the effort. You can change if you come up with a plan and stick to it. If you are ready to make significant changes, first determine how you would like to see your life and what you need to change. Then start the process of change with a couple of small actions and set new goals that will help you become a better person. Control your actions and stay motivated to make following the plan easier.

Steps

How to evaluate your life

Figure out how you imagine your ideal life. If you want to completely change, you may feel that your life is not developing the way you would like. To become the best version of yourself, it is important to understand how you want to see your life. Think about your ideal job or school, how you want to spend your days, and how you want to appear to other people.

• For example, you may decide that you want to be a teacher in order to work with children. IN free time you want to help others, do things with your hands, and connect with your family. Suppose you want people to perceive you as a good-natured and hard-working person.

1. make a list habits and actions that are bothering you. You will need to replace bad habits with good ones if you want to make major changes. Determine what habits are keeping you from having the life you want. Think about what activities are causing you problems. Make a list of these habits and activities so you can work on them later.

   • Let's say you find out that your habit of eating out on the weekends is preventing you from collecting money for your hobbies and eating right.
   • Or you may find that you don't let go of your phone and it takes up all your free time.

2. Determine what triggers the behavior you want to change. Getting rid of a bad habit is not easy, but if you know what provokes this bad habit, it will be easier for you to fight it. If you feel like you want to do something harmful, write down what happened to you before. Something may have been the precipitating factor, and if you avoid repeating this situation, it will be easier for you to change something.

   • Suppose you are trying to give up junk food. The next time you feel like eating a bag of chips, think about what happened before you had that craving. You may realize that you are craving junk food when you are nervous. Managing stress will help you avoid junk food cravings.

   How to make big changes

   1. Invest in yourself to help you understand your worth. You deserve to feel good, so spend the money on yourself. Change your hair, buy new clothes to make it easier for you to get started. If you use decorative cosmetics, learn how to do makeup in a new way.

      • If you have the opportunity, get a new haircut at the salon and buy a couple of new things.
      • If you don't have much money, go to a second-hand clothing store or buy a few items on sale. You can also invite friends or girlfriends to exchange clothes that you do not need.

   2. Change the surrounding space to tune in to the new one. Changes in the environment will help you change the way you think and see new opportunities ahead of you. First, get rid of the rubble and trash at home and at work. Then rearrange the furniture and other things to make the rooms look new. If possible, buy something new that reminds you that you are trying to change your life.

      • Even small changes can make a big difference, so don't worry if you can't redo the entire space. Perhaps a small plant in a pot or a motivational poster will be enough to make you feel new.
      • If you have such an opportunity, change everything around you so that your life begins to seem new to you. Replace the paintings on the walls, buy new linens and towels, replace old or broken furniture.

      Advice: arrange the space around you so that it begins to match yours ideal life. For example, if you want to study or write more, place your desk in the most visible spot in the room. If you want to start cooking every day, move pots and pans to a prominent place.

      Talk to yourself in a positive way to motivate yourself. Your attitude towards yourself can either help you or destroy all your endeavors, so it is important to learn to treat yourself positively. Monitor your thoughts to notice negative trends in time. If you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, challenge those thoughts and replace them with something neutral or positive. Come up with positive affirmations for yourself that you can repeat throughout the day.

      • Let's say you think you can't do anything. Tell yourself this: "This can't be true, because I'm good at singing, drawing and baking pies." Then replace the original thought with the following: “I can do a lot, but it’s impossible to know everything.”
      • You can use the following positive affirmations for self-motivation: “I am great”, “I can achieve everything with hard work”, “I am becoming the best version of myself”.

   3. Try something new to push yourself out of your comfort zone. If you're going to make a difference, you need to learn how to get out of your comfort zone in order to grow. The best thing to do is start trying something new. Make a list of what you've always wanted to try and start crossing things off.

      • The list might include things like "go to a Thai restaurant", "go skydiving", "take an art class", "apply for an internship", "do volunteer work", "talk to a stranger in a store", "change hairstyle”, “going to work a new way”.

   How to become the best version of yourself

   1. Set realistic measurable goals . Reread the description of your ideal life that you wrote earlier and identify 1-3 goals that will allow you to achieve what you want. Make sure your goals are small and easily measurable. Set specific goals to make it easier for you to track your progress.

      • For example, the goal to move more is poorly worded because it is neither specific nor measurable. It’s better to formulate the goal like this: “exercise 30 minutes every day.”

   2. Pick up new habits to help you reach your goals. make a list good habits that will enable you to achieve what you want. Then think about how you can make them part of your life. Set aside time for new habits to get started on your journey towards your goals.

      • Let's say you have a goal to achieve a healthy weight. Your new habits can be exercising every day and eating right. To make it easier for you to do what you want to do, set aside time to exercise and prepare healthy meals.

   3. Spend less time on unimportant things so that you have time for what really matters. Each person has a limited amount of time, so after the emergence of new goals, you may feel that you simply cannot do everything. To find time to work on new goals, it's important to identify what activities aren't making your life better. Replace these activities with more important things and new habits.

      • Suppose you usually play games on your smartphone during your lunch break. Use this time to exercise.

   4. Surround yourself with growth-oriented people who will motivate you. The environment can have a significant impact on a person's motivation and behavior. Spend more time with people who strive to be successful and do things that make them happier. This fellowship will help you motivate yourself to make significant changes in your life.

      • Attend events for people who share your goals or interests. You will surely find new friends there.
      • Do not worry about the need to exclude some people from your life. If you spend more time with people who are focused on growth, you will naturally begin to avoid the company of acquaintances who can be a bad influence on you.

   5. Keep track of what you managed to do on the way to new goals and habits, every day. Write down every effort you make towards your goal, and celebrate any achievement, no matter how small. Think about the process, not about the future result. This will allow you to stay motivated and not give up halfway through.

      • Every day, write down what you did today to achieve your goal.
      • When you hit a small milestone, celebrate it and congratulate yourself on progress towards your goal.

   How not to deviate from the plan

   1. Find yourself a partner with whom you can work together towards your goals. It will be easier to stay motivated if there is a person nearby with the same tasks as you. Ask someone with similar goals or someone you trust to be your partner. Talk to your partner about progress at least once a week so you don't forget why you're doing it.

      • If your goal allows it, you can invite your partner to do something related to achieving the goal with you.

      Advice: if you have multiple goals, consider reaching out to multiple people to maintain accountability. For example, ask a friend to play sports with you, a roommate to keep track of what you spend your free time on, and a colleague to monitor your progress at work.

   2. Get rid of the distractions that prevent you from devoting all your time to important activities. The TV and phone can be a big distraction, so don't let them get in your way. If something is preventing you from sticking to new habits, cut that distraction out of your life or limit it. This will allow you to move towards your goals.

      • For example, install an application that would restrict the use social networks on computer and phone.
      • You can turn off the TV to avoid the temptation to watch it.

   3. Review your progress once a week. Analysis of what you have done will allow you to understand what you are doing right and what is not. This will give you the opportunity to adjust your behavior and achieve your goal. Set aside time each week to reflect on what you've done this week and think about new steps for next week.

      • For example, you can write down how much time you spent working on your goals and what activities were useless. Then decide how best to manage your time in the future.

   4. Reward yourself for positive changes. Treat yourself to something to celebrate success. It could be a special sticker, a favorite food, or a small item you've been wanting to buy for a long time. Reward yourself regularly to keep yourself motivated towards your big goal.

      • As a reward for small changes, you can put a sticker on your calendar every time you do something in your new healthy habits or work towards your goals.
      • For more significant achievements, buy yourself something nice - like your favorite coffee or an unusual bath bomb.
      • When you reach an important point or goal, reward yourself with a new pair of shoes or a visit to the spa.